{"id":4803,"date":"2013-05-20T08:18:32","date_gmt":"2013-05-20T12:18:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/doinglifetogether\/?p=4803"},"modified":"2013-05-20T08:18:32","modified_gmt":"2013-05-20T12:18:32","slug":"10-tips-for-vacation-planning-for-children-of-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2013\/05\/10-tips-for-vacation-planning-for-children-of-divorce.html","title":{"rendered":"10 Tips for Vacation Planning for Children of Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"Summer and holidays can be a time of challenge for children of divorce. It may be unsettling for a child to vacation with a non-custodial parent. From the child's point of view, he\/she will be in strange places, with strange people, with a parent less familiar with daily habits and needs. This may create some fear and anxiety about the vacation time.  So if you are a non-custodial parent planning a vacation with your child, or you have custody and are wondering how to prepare your child to be with the non-custodial parent, here are some suggestions to make your child feel more comfortable.  #1--You and the non-custodial parent make vacation plans for your child together. As incredible as this sounds, it will be easier on your child if you both work together. Arrangements should be made in advance and agreed upon.    #2--The itinerary for the trip must be shared. The custodial parent needs to know where the child will be--phone numbers and addresses. I know some non-custodial parents resist this idea but in case of an emergency, the custodial parent needs to know how to find his\/her child.  #3--Send copies of important medical information on the trip. The non-custodial parent needs to know how to handle a medical emergency or problem and have the pediatrician's phone number, insurance information and medical records.  #4--Be careful not to put guilt on your child. Your child should never be made to feel guilty because he\/she is going on vacation with the other parent.  #5--Work out any disagreements about the vacation away from the child before the vacation. Don't put your child in the middle of disagreements between you and your ex.  #6--Plan for separation anxiety. Send a photo with your child. Include his\/her favorite blanket, pillow, animal or toy. Discuss ways to communicate--email, telephone, post cards or letters.  #7--Be positive about the vacation. Talk nicely about the non-custodial parent and help your child anticipate a great time.  #8--Normalize fears and anxiety. Tell your child it's normal to feel a little anxious. Hopefully, that anxiety will fade as the trip progresses.  #9--Send a camera and smile at the time of pick-up. Now is not the time to bring up unresolved issues with your ex.  #10--Pray. Keep the non-custodial parent and the vacation on your prayer list. Pray for protection and positive interactions between parent and child.  \"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-4805\" alt=\"child playing\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/258\/2013\/05\/child-playing.jpg\" width=\"400\" height=\"293\" \/><\/a>Summer and holidays can be a time of challenge for children of divorce. It may be unsettling for a child to vacation with a non-custodial parent. From the child&#8217;s point of view, he\/she will be in strange places, with strange people, with a parent less familiar with daily habits and needs. This may create some fear and anxiety about the vacation time.<\/p>\n<p>So if you are a non-custodial parent planning a vacation with your child, or you have custody and are wondering how to prepare your child to be with the non-custodial parent, here are some suggestions to make your child feel more comfortable.<\/p>\n<p>#1&#8211;You and the non-custodial parent make vacation plans for your child together. As incredible as this sounds, it will be easier on your child if you both work together. Arrangements should be made in advance and agreed upon.<\/p>\n<p>#2&#8211;The itinerary for the trip must be shared. The custodial parent needs to know where the child will be&#8211;phone numbers and addresses. I know some non-custodial parents resist this idea but in case of an emergency, the custodial parent needs to know how to find his\/her child.<\/p>\n<p>#3&#8211;Send copies of important medical information on the trip. The non-custodial parent needs to know how to handle a medical emergency or problem and have the pediatrician&#8217;s phone number, insurance information and medical records.<\/p>\n<p>#4&#8211;Be careful not to put guilt on your child. Your child should never be made to feel guilty because he\/she is going on vacation with the other parent.<\/p>\n<p>#5&#8211;Work out any disagreements about the vacation away from the child before the vacation. Don&#8217;t put your child in the middle of disagreements between you and your ex.<\/p>\n<p>#6&#8211;Plan for separation anxiety. Send a photo with your child. Include his\/her favorite blanket, pillow, animal or toy. Discuss ways to communicate&#8211;email, telephone, post cards or letters.<\/p>\n<p>#7&#8211;Be positive about the vacation. Talk nicely about the non-custodial parent and help your child anticipate a great time.<\/p>\n<p>#8&#8211;Normalize fears and anxiety. Tell your child it&#8217;s normal to feel a little anxious. Hopefully, that anxiety will fade as the trip progresses.<\/p>\n<p>#9&#8211;Send a camera and smile at the time of pick-up. Now is not the time to bring up unresolved issues with your ex.<\/p>\n<p>#10&#8211;Pray. Keep the non-custodial parent and the vacation on your prayer list. Pray for protection and positive interactions between parent and child.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Summer and holidays can be a time of challenge for children of divorce. It may be unsettling for a child to vacation with a non-custodial parent. From the child&#8217;s point of view, he\/she will be in strange places, with strange people, with a parent less familiar with daily habits and needs. 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