{"id":4130,"date":"2013-02-13T08:00:02","date_gmt":"2013-02-13T13:00:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/doinglifetogether\/?p=4130"},"modified":"2013-02-13T15:09:33","modified_gmt":"2013-02-13T20:09:33","slug":"singles-and-sex-the-survey-says","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2013\/02\/singles-and-sex-the-survey-says.html","title":{"rendered":"Singles and Sex: The Survey Says&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.freedigitalphotos.net\/images\/agree-terms.php?id=10033117\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-4159\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/258\/2013\/02\/couple-loving.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"266\" height=\"400\" \/><\/a>According to\u00a0an online survey of 5,481 singles, ages 21 and older, who are not in a relationship, conducted by Market Tools Inc. for Match.com (Margin of error plus\/minus 1.32 percentage points), this is what singles are saying about their sexual behavior:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8211;42% would not date a virgin. This is really sad and a remarkable change through the decades. Consider the sexual baggage and potential STIs that are brought to relationships from multiple sex partners. And this is certainly not in line with God&#8217;s plan to wait for sex in marriage.<\/li>\n<li>&#8211;47% of singles reported a &#8220;friends with benefits&#8221; relationship. One has to wonder how much media have impacted this casual view of sex. On most TV shows, it is almost expected that you hook up with someone while dating. And casual friendships that involve sex are viewed as \u00a0conveniences as long as they don&#8217;t hurt \u00a0friendships. Sex is reduced to a physical act versus an intimate act of marriage. Based on my conversations with singles, I am not convinced that anyone handles casual sex well.<\/li>\n<li>&#8211;44% of women and 63% of men have had one-night stands. The temptation is great, especially when this is not viewed as sin.<\/li>\n<li>&#8211;Almost one-third (28%) say they&#8217;ve had sex by the third date; almost half (46%) by the sixth date. Speaks to the expectation that casual sex is not frowned upon as it was in years past.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>What is disturbing about this survey is that we are seeing almost half of singles willing to hook up with dates and treat sex in a casual way. What isn&#8217;t talked about is the fall out emotionally, spiritually and relationally when sex is treated casually. The heartache of giving yourself to a person who doesn&#8217;t stay with you creates more of an impact than people lead you to believe. I&#8217;ve heard hundreds of stories from women and men who can&#8217;t shake the images of prior sexual behavior from their memories when they do get into a relationship they would like to go long term. The number of STIs continues to rise, \u00a0a permanent reminder of prior sexual relationships to those who marry other people.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Sexual relationships are not free and easy as we are led to believe. The consequences are rarely shown or discussed but often leave scars, wounds and feelings of shame that can only be dealt with through the healing power of a relationship with Christ. God&#8217;s prescription for sex in marriage is not some punitive measure to keep up from having fun, but a protection for our hearts. Any other message is simply a lie, but apparently more and more singles are buying the lies.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>According to\u00a0an online survey of 5,481 singles, ages 21 and older, who are not in a relationship, conducted by Market Tools Inc. for Match.com (Margin of error plus\/minus 1.32 percentage points), this is what singles are saying about their sexual behavior: &#8211;42% would not date a virgin. 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