{"id":3767,"date":"2012-12-07T08:00:19","date_gmt":"2012-12-07T13:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/doinglifetogether\/?p=3767"},"modified":"2012-12-06T15:05:40","modified_gmt":"2012-12-06T20:05:40","slug":"guest-blogger-wendy-griffith-asks-are-you-worth-the-price-of-dinner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2012\/12\/guest-blogger-wendy-griffith-asks-are-you-worth-the-price-of-dinner.html","title":{"rendered":"Guest Blogger Wendy Griffith Asks, Are You Worth the Price of Dinner?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Anchor woman,Wendy Griffith’ feels strongly about men and dinner dates. Read her guest blog and let us know. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you agree?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\n

In today\u2019s world, it can sometimes be confusing about who pays on a date. \u00a0Stop right there! \u00a0Ladies, there should be no confusion. The man pays. Yes, there are exceptions but in general, especially when you are first going out, the man pays.<\/p>\n

A few years ago, I was asked out by a college professor who I assumed had a good paying job, although the jalopy he drove said otherwise. But, it had been a long time since my last date and I was determined to give this guy a chance. On our first date, we went to a nice steak house. On our second date, we had pizza and on our third date, we were at this cute little fish house and he brought up the bill. \u201cI think we should split the check,\u201d he said. \u201cExcuse me?\u201d I said. \u00a0He went on to tell me about a platonic girlfriend that he went out with occasionally and how they always split the check.<\/p>\n

\u201cWell, are you dating her?,\u201d I asked.\u00a0 \u201cNo,\u201d he said.\u00a0 \u201cHave you ever kissed her goodnight?,\u201d \u00a0I asked\u201d \u201cNo,\u201d I\u2019m not sure where these words came from but this is what I heard myself saying to him as I got up from my seat to go to the ladies room. \u00a0\u201dI am worth the price of dinner and dessert!\u201d\u00a0 The look on his face was priceless!<\/p>\n

Not surprisingly, that was our last date.\u00a0 He told me I was \u201cextravagant\u201d and not a good \u201csteward\u201d of money.<\/p>\n

I was upset at being called extravagant just because I expected him to pay so I asked one of my male colleagues what he thought.\u00a0 He told me, that when he was pursuing his wife, no expense was too great. \u00a0He always paid and was happy to do so.\u00a0 He also pointed out that God\u2019s love toward us is extravagant<\/strong>.<\/em>\u00a0 He gave us everything \u2013 His only begotten son \u2013 so we could have everlasting life.<\/p>\n

Scripture uses an extravagant verb to describe the enormity of His love for us when it says, \u201cHow great is the love that the Father has lavished<\/em> on us\u201d (1 John 3:1).\u00a0 So the pursuing man has the great opportunity here to imitate God!<\/strong><\/p>\n

When my sister was dating her now husband, not only did he always pay for dinner, he bought her a car! and paid off her student loan debt even before they got married. Now, that\u2019s what I call extravagant. A dinner and a movie is nice. But expecting the man to pay for dinner is not extravagant. However, whether he does so or not could give you an important glimpse into his heart and his beliefs.<\/p>\n

Fortunately with God, there is no confusion when it comes to His extravagant<\/em><\/strong> love for us.<\/p>\n

\u201cThat Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height\u2014 to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Eph 3:17 (NKJ)<\/p>\n

From Casting Crowns\u2026<\/p>\n

Your love is extravagant
\nYour friendship, it is intimate
\nI feel like moving to the rhythm of Your grace
\nYour fragrance is intoxicating in our secret place
\nYour love is extravagant<\/p>\n

Spread wide in the arms of Christ is the love that covers sin
\nNo greater love have I ever known You considered me a friend
\nCapture my heart again\u2026<\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s not like this for all women, but I know for me, if a man pays, it makes me feel more like a woman, I feel valued, safe, taken care of. It makes a statement. I recall after our first date at the nice steak house, he mentioned how expensive it was. Ouch. That\u2019s like saying, I really didn\u2019t want to buy you that nice dinner. \u00a0And ladies, let\u2019s be real. \u00a0If he can\u2019t afford to pay for your dinner, can he afford to buy you a ring? \u00a0Can he afford a house for you both to live in? I\u2019m not saying you should never pay for anything. When I am in a relationship, I like to occasionally buy breakfast or lunch or even cook, something my two sisters, who are now happily married, say they never would do. But, I feel like \u201cdate night\u2019s\u201d are his responsibility.<\/p>\n

God wants you to know that you are worth the price of dinner and dessert and so much more!\u00a0 You are worth someone being \u201cextravagant\u201d over.\u00a0 After all, you are a daughter of the most high King,\u00a0 A royal treasure, A beautiful masterpiece, a pearl of great price. You are a lady and a true gentleman will recognize your value and act accordingly.<\/p>\n

To read more of Wendy’s blog, click on this link.<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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