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\"\"<\/a>Are you easily angered? Do you have a low tolerance for frustration. Does any little thing annoy and frustrate you? Are you tired of feeling out of control? If so, consider these five tips:<\/p>\n

1) Take a 20 minute time-out from an angry situation.<\/strong> Walk away, practice deep breathing to calm down your body. Come back to the situation once you are physically relaxed.<\/p>\n

2) Take each thought captive <\/strong>(2Corinthians 10:5). Angry emotions are rooted in angry thoughts so learn to stop that angry thought and think on something more positive or good (Philippians 4:8).<\/p>\n

3) Choose not to take offense.<\/strong> Even if offense was given, it is your decision to take or refuse it. Always err on the side of giving mercy to others.<\/p>\n

4) When you are the target of injustice, do the unnatural but biblical thing-pray for that person<\/strong> (Matthew 5:44). I admit, this isn’t easy to do.<\/p>\n

5) Choose to forgive<\/strong>.\u00a0 Because God forgave you, you must forgive others. It’s a biblical mandate (Matthew 18:21-22). Forgiveness is an act of obedience to God and prevents bitterness from forming.<\/p>\n

Always remember. You are the only one who has control over your responses. An angry emotion may creep up, but how you handle it is what counts. The biblical directive is to be angry and not sin (Ephesians 4:26). The way we meet that requirement is to respond in a godly way no matter what the source of the anger. Paul sums it up in Romans 12:19-21 (NLT) ” Dear friends, never avenge yourselves. Leave that to God. For it is written: “I will take vengeance; I will repay those who deserve it,” says the Lord. Instead do what the Scriptures say: “If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink, and they will be ashamed of what they have done to you.” Don’t let evil get the best of you, but conquer evil by doing good.”<\/p>\n

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Dr. Linda’s small book, Breaking Free from Anger and Unforgiveness<\/em><\/a> has helped thousands of people respond to anger in a healthy way.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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