{"id":2758,"date":"2012-06-19T08:00:33","date_gmt":"2012-06-19T12:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/doinglifetogether\/?p=2758"},"modified":"2012-06-11T17:59:49","modified_gmt":"2012-06-11T21:59:49","slug":"four-minutes-four-times-a-day-to-improve-your-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2012\/06\/four-minutes-four-times-a-day-to-improve-your-relationship.html","title":{"rendered":"Four Minutes, Four Times a Day to Improve Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I’ve been through years of relationship training. During those years, some ideas seem like good ones, others not so much. At a recent seminar I attended, I liked this idea and thought I would pass it on.<\/p>\n

The leader of the seminar, Dr. Gary Brainerd, suggested this simple strategy. Take four minutes, four times a day to connect with your partner. A small investment of time could make a real difference. Here are the four times a day to devote four minutes:<\/p>\n

1) When you both wake up. Take four minutes to touch, talk or do something to bring on the day.<\/p>\n

2) When you say goodbye for the day. Start your day apart together. Say something warm and positive and send each other off to face the day.<\/p>\n

3) The first moments you reconnect from being apart that day. Greet each other with a kiss and a few minutes of sharing your day.<\/p>\n

4) When you say goodnight. End the day with a devotion, touch, or words of gratitude for each other.<\/p>\n

Easy to do and I like this. Give it a try and tell me how it goes.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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