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During my college years, Thanksgiving break often turned into a political battleground, thanks to my loud and opinionated family. We all know the unspoken rule: steer clear of politics during holiday gatherings. But that year, two of my uncles had me in tears while discussing the results of a presidential election. The conversation became contentious, which was particularly unsettling for me, having been raised in a Christian household.<\/p>\n

Politics can really bring out the worst in us, especially this year, with unprecedented questions of character and biased reporting. I believe that social media and traditional media have only intensified the situation. The relief that will be felt when this day is over is one thing. The contention that will follow will be difficult no matter who wins the election.<\/p>\n

For the first time in my lifetime, I am adopting the policy, “Don’t ask, don’t tell” regarding my vote. I don’t trust most people to have a civil conversation regarding the election so I am not going to discuss my vote.\u00a0I know people who have unfriended others on Facebook simply because they voted differently. Shouldn\u2019t we be held to a higher standard regarding our words, tone, and how we respond to friends, family, and fellow churchgoers?<\/p>\n

In 1 Peter 2:12, Peter advises the suffering church, \u201cKeep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable, so that when they speak against you as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation.\u201d<\/p>\n

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It bothers me when I hear fellow believers speak mean-spiritedly about their opposing politicians. Disagreeing with policies and discussing character issues are one thing, but we must strive to remain honorable. The name-calling, vilification, and angry rhetoric need to stop\u2014both before and after elections. Even in distressing times, we should remain loyal to Christ, who loved His enemies and calls us to do the same.<\/p>\n

Regardless of whether your candidate wins or loses, remember that none of this surprises God. There\u2019s no panic in heaven. Our response should be prayer, and self-control is a fruit of the Spirit.<\/p>\n

Our hope doesn\u2019t rest on who occupies the Oval Office. Yes, it matters, and the policies of the next president will impact our future. But our true hope is in Christ and the transformative power of the Gospel to change lives. No matter what happens, don\u2019t be discouraged or dismayed. \u201cTrust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight\u201d (Proverbs 3:5-6).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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