{"id":21623,"date":"2023-08-17T08:00:40","date_gmt":"2023-08-17T12:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/?p=21623"},"modified":"2023-08-17T14:31:32","modified_gmt":"2023-08-17T18:31:32","slug":"10-ways-to-stop-judging-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2023\/08\/10-ways-to-stop-judging-others.html","title":{"rendered":"10 Ways to Stop Judging Others"},"content":{"rendered":"

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It\u2019s built in us. We don\u2019t like injustice or unfair treatment. So we tend to judge those around us or in the news. \u00a0But it is clear that the Bible instructs us, \u201dDo not judge or you too will be judged.\u201d So how do we walk out this verse from Matthew 7 in everyday life?<\/p>\n

When you judge someone, you punish, condemn or conclude. Judging is the opposite of love. And the Bible warns against it as it elevates us above others, and we can\u2019t always know what is in someone\u2019s heart.<\/p>\n

To help us fulfill this mandate not to judge, here are 10 tips to put on the breaks when it comes to judgment:<\/p>\n

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  1. Pause before you speak<\/strong>-It is so easy to lash out at someone and have a self\u2014righteous attitude but take a moment to think before you speak. Don\u2019t send that nasty text or write an email when you are upset. You can\u2019t take those words back once they are spoken or written.<\/li>\n
  2. Reframe from always giving your two cents.<\/strong> We all have personal opinions on how others should behave. And you might have a different way of doing something, but that doesn\u2019t mean your way is better or that you are right. Unless you are asked, decide if your input is judgment.<\/li>\n
  3. Look at your behavior.<\/strong> Do you judge others but not yourself? I\u2019ve heard it said we are no better than the people we judge. Romans 3:23 says, we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. We are saved by grace, not by what we do or who we are. Therefore, we are not in a position to judge others. Let God be the judge.<\/li>\n
  4. Be intentional.<\/strong> Make it a point to catch yourself being judgmental during each day. Then pause, repent, and stop the habit of doing this. Habits are usually broken with awareness and intention.<\/li>\n
  5. Change your perspective. <\/strong>You have not been appointed to judge.<\/strong> This is a perspective to keep in mind. God is judge and jury over mankind, not you or me. Stay in a position of humility.<\/li>\n
  6. Give the person the benefit of the doubt<\/strong>. Consider how many times you have been judged unfairly. It hurts! So don\u2019t turn around and do the same to other people. Love your neighbor as yourself. Assume the good.<\/li>\n
  7. Consider your motive<\/strong>. Do you judge because you are insecure or need control. Judging others is often a way to hide our insecurities. It elevates us above others. Maybe you need more attention, or to feel accepted by others, or are afraid to get close to someone and don\u2019t trust others. Whatever, the reason, get to the root.<\/li>\n
  8. Get to know the person.<\/strong> Your judgments could be wrong or uninformed because you don\u2019t know someone.<\/li>\n
  9. Help but don\u2019t insult<\/strong>. There are times we need to give our opinions or make decisions, but the way we do it matters. Do it in a way that honors another person, even if they don\u2019t do the same in return.<\/li>\n
  10. Forgive often<\/strong>. Don\u2019t hold ill feelings or resentment towards others who have treated you poorly, forgive. And forgive over and over as this is another commandment given to those living in Christ. Forgive even when it isn\u2019t deserved because this has been done for you. God forgave us when we didn\u2019t deserve it.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Finally, don\u2019t compare yourself to others. This is often what prompts judgment. It is God who makes us whole and gives us a sense of security. Be secure in who you are in Christ and develop compassion for others. Stop this negative habit of judging and chose the path of love.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    It\u2019s built in us. We don\u2019t like injustice or unfair treatment. So we tend to judge those around us or in the news. \u00a0But it is clear that the Bible instructs us, \u201dDo not judge or you too will be judged.\u201d So how do we walk out this verse from Matthew 7 in everyday life?…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":419,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[913,914,917],"tags":[7304,7301,3532,584,7307],"class_list":["post-21623","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-couple-relationships","category-family-relationships-2","category-friend-relationships","tag-critical","tag-judging","tag-judging-others","tag-judgment","tag-negative-habit"],"yoast_head":"\n10 Ways to Stop Judging Others<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"We don\u2019t like injustice or unfair treatment. 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