{"id":21419,"date":"2023-07-18T08:00:04","date_gmt":"2023-07-18T12:00:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/?p=21419"},"modified":"2023-07-15T09:37:50","modified_gmt":"2023-07-15T13:37:50","slug":"make-your-setback-a-comeback","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2023\/07\/make-your-setback-a-comeback.html","title":{"rendered":"Make Your Setback a Comeback"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/258\/2023\/07\/inspiration-g69e7ef60e_1280-scaled.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-21425\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/258\/2023\/07\/inspiration-g69e7ef60e_1280-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"768\" height=\"576\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>We&#8217;ve heard a lot about what was lost during the pandemic-the setbacks people faced in business, relationships and even their mental health. But it is possible to build resiliency through setbacks and make them comebacks? \u00a0Consider this. When was the last time you were derailed from reaching a goal? Did the setback discourage you or lead to giving up?<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Turning setbacks to come backs takes intentionality. When you spend time and energy to make a change or make something happen, setbacks can be disappointing, but do not have to leave you stuck. You can change a setback to a comeback. Here is how:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Make sure that what you are trying to do is <strong>important to you<\/strong>. Important goals are registered in the brain differently as the brain begins to activate towards that goal. When a goal is important to you, your willingness to persevere and face challenges is much higher.<\/li>\n<li>Daily, remind yourself <strong>how this change is making your life better<\/strong>. When you focus on the present and how this change is affecting you, it helps sustain the goal.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Don\u2019t allow fear<\/strong> to take hold. People who do great things, fight fear, and move through it. They embrace failure and learn from it.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Check your thoughts<\/strong>. Are they negative? Full of doubt? Change that. When you make a change, you have the power of the Holy Spirit in you to help you. Think of the judge Deborah in the Old Testament. She was called to do a job only men had done. She faced it with courage but could have thought of a hundred reasons why she was not a good choice. Instead, she embraced the challenge and didn\u2019t allow fear or negativity to overcome her.<\/li>\n<li>When you have a setback, <strong>acknowledge the disappointment<\/strong> or feelings. Suffering in silence in not a Christian thing to do. Feel it and then move forward.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Move through discomfort<\/strong>. Change usually causes discomfort as we are forging a new path. Learn to move through it, not avoid it.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Focus on the small things you can<\/strong> to in response to a setback. Get back up and learn from your experience. Take new action based on what you learned.<\/li>\n<li>When you are called to do something, <strong>failure is not an option<\/strong>. Keep persevering towards the goal. Don\u2019t give up. God is strong when you are weak. Lean into Him during times of difficulty.<\/li>\n<li>Remember your <strong>weapons of warfare<\/strong>. They are not flesh and blood but spiritual. These weapons fight against hopelessness, being outnumbered or ordinary in your calling. Use your spiritual weapons to stay strong in your faith and do no doubt.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Endure the race<\/strong>. God is for you and working all things for your good. Stay the course and change that setback to a comeback.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We&#8217;ve heard a lot about what was lost during the pandemic-the setbacks people faced in business, relationships and even their mental health. But it is possible to build resiliency through setbacks and make them comebacks? \u00a0Consider this. When was the last time you were derailed from reaching a goal? 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