{"id":21087,"date":"2023-05-02T09:00:43","date_gmt":"2023-05-02T13:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/?p=21087"},"modified":"2023-05-06T09:04:56","modified_gmt":"2023-05-06T13:04:56","slug":"from-entitled-to-grateful","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2023\/05\/from-entitled-to-grateful.html","title":{"rendered":"From Entitled to Grateful"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Have you ever noticed how many commercials tell us that we deserve to have things? We deserve a new car, a new phone, a certain type of meal or food, a better job, a vacation\u2026the list goes on and on.<\/p>\n

And it is not only media that highly promotes this entitlement mentality. Sadly, entitlement has crept into the church–pastors who need to be admired and demand special treatment, church goers who feel their way of doing things is correct. Entitlement has invaded all parts of American culture and it\u2019s time to rid ourselves of this unhealthy mentality.<\/p>\n

Entitlement involves the belief that we deserve privileges or special treatment, or that we have a right to something. It\u2019s thinking that\u2026 I deserve, I\u2019m owed, I should have. And we encounter this attitude every day–the person who cuts in line at the coffee shop, the woman with a cart full of groceries who gets in the express check-out line, the man who loudly demands he get the best seat in the restaurant.<\/p>\n

Entitlement is dangerous in all relationships because it is self-centered and self-promoting. Entitled people lack empathy for others because people must cater to their needs. It\u2019s all about them and their specialness. This self-focus easily leads to hurt and disrespect, and it certainly doesn\u2019t promote intimacy. And if you stand up to entitlement, the entitled person becomes angry and resentful. Afterall, they deserve<\/em> your respect and admiration.<\/p>\n

To deal with entitlement, the first thing is to recognize that this attitude and accompanying behavior are the opposite to how Jesus taught us to live. We are entitled to nothing! We are incredibly blessed, but we do not deserve anything. God loves us and as a good Father gives us good things, but not because we are so deserving and have earned his affection. Effort, status and money don\u2019t give us priority to God\u2019s blessings.<\/p>\n

At the root, entitlement is a heart issue. To stop it, we must purposely choose humility and understand God\u2019s grace. Grace is God\u2019s unmerited favor, meaning we don\u2019t earn it. The Psalmist David knew this when he said, the Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want (Psalm 23: 1). The Good Shepherd provided everything he needed in his position as a sheep.<\/p>\n

Jesus is our ultimate model when it comes to positioning ourselves before God. He chose to humble himself and come to earth as a man. He was shamed, tortured, and punished for us and deserved none of this treatment. Yet, he willingly chose to humbly himself on a cross for our eternal good. The Message says it this way (Philippians 2: 7-8).<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human! \u00a0Having become human, he stayed human. It was an incredibly humbling process. He didn\u2019t claim special privileges. Instead, he lived a selfless, obedient life and then died a selfless, obedient death \u2014 and the worst kind of death at that: a crucifixion. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

For that sacrifice, we should all feel tremendous gratitude. Gratitude is the antidote to entitlement. A grateful heart melts away entitlement. So, focus on what you have and what you have been given. Scripture tells us every good and perfect gift come from above, from the Father (James 1:17).<\/p>\n

To combat entitlement, practice gratitude every day. Recognize how blessed you are in what God has given you. Then serve others with your gifts and talents. Serving softens your heart and keeps entitlement at bay.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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