{"id":1713,"date":"2012-02-15T07:45:23","date_gmt":"2012-02-15T12:45:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/doinglifetogether\/?p=1713"},"modified":"2012-03-03T09:54:21","modified_gmt":"2012-03-03T14:54:21","slug":"does-the-church-enable","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/doinglifetogether\/2012\/02\/does-the-church-enable.html","title":{"rendered":"Does the Church Enable?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This past week we lost an immense talent in the music business. Our prayers are with Whitney Houston\u2019s family during this difficult time.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Her death has caused me to think about the larger role the church plays in the lives of celebrities, those with prominence, or even our very own leaders who struggle within the body. Are there times the church acts like an enabler and fails to confront its \u201ccelebrity\u201d pastors and leadership?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Living in a postmodern culture, we have become reluctant to step in and confront those who are self-destructing. The post-modern thinking is that everyone has a right to do whatever he or she chooses.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>We may excuse sin because the leader is successful and is growing the church.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>We no longer talk about sin and when we do, we are accused of being judgmental. \u201cIt\u2019s not my business\u201d or \u201cAm I my brother\u2019s keeper?\u201d are often heard outside the walls of the sanctuary.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>But Jesus makes it clear. Whoever has a need is our neighbor. And we are to love our neighbors. When you love someone, you don\u2019t ignore his or her descent into darkness. You don\u2019t turn away from that person because he acts in destructive ways or because you are uncomfortable with confrontation. You don\u2019t say, \u201cSomeone else will deal with it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>And when you know someone is in the throws of addiction (e.g., pornography), you don\u2019t enable by excusing, turning a blind eye, refusing to set limits and allowing the person to operate as if nothing is wrong. You confront and offer a road to healing.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So I ask the question, has the church grown soft in confronting self-destruction? Do we enable those in addiction by covering up for them, turning a blind eye and blaming their behavior on stress and other ills?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Besides the incredible sorrow I feel for Whitney\u2019s family, her death has also caused me to ask the question in my own surroundings. Who is in need? And when I see someone in need, am I guilty of saying, \u201cIt\u2019s not my problem.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: xx-small\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; This past week we lost an immense talent in the music business. 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