1.0Doing Life Togetherhttps://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/doinglifetogetherLinda Mintlehttps://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/doinglifetogether/author/lmintleThe Cost of High Expectationsrich600338<blockquote class="wp-embedded-content" data-secret="CQ7c04nixD"><a href="https://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/doinglifetogether/2017/04/cost-high-expectations.html">The Cost of High Expectations</a></blockquote><iframe sandbox="allow-scripts" security="restricted" src="https://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/doinglifetogether/2017/04/cost-high-expectations.html/embed#?secret=CQ7c04nixD" width="600" height="338" title="“The Cost of High Expectations” — Doing Life Together" data-secret="CQ7c04nixD" frameborder="0" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" class="wp-embedded-content"></iframe><script type="text/javascript">
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We tend to think that having high expectations for ourselves or even other people is a good thing, but is it? John always wanted to go to medical school, but felt like no one ever guided him towards that goal. So when he saw his daughter do well in biology and chemistry, he decided to…http://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/doinglifetogether/files/2017/04/desperate-2100307_1920-300x240.jpg