{"id":471,"date":"2015-04-29T17:21:37","date_gmt":"2015-04-29T17:21:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/depressionhelp\/?p=471"},"modified":"2016-04-28T19:24:40","modified_gmt":"2016-04-28T19:24:40","slug":"dealing-with-depression-can-mean-youll-loose-friends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/depressionhelp\/2015\/04\/dealing-with-depression-can-mean-youll-loose-friends.html","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with Depression Can Mean You’ll Loose Friends"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Dealing with depression can mean you\u2019ll loose friends. Maybe its already happened to you. Maybe it hasn\u2019t and you\u2019re thinking, “That won\u2019t happen to me. My friends and family love me too much.” It\u2019s a sad reality that friends and family will stop talking to you or visiting you. Loosing family and friends while dealing with depression isn\u2019t a punishment from God. God isn\u2019t angry with you and adding more misery to your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Depression has lots of stigma. Stigma can make people think you\u2019re crazy or that something is broken inside you. They might think you\u2019re weak. If they were in your place, they\u2019d be able to handle whatever situation or issue made you depressed. They might say they could see it coming. You were acting odd, weird or strange. You should have been able to notice depression coming on, but you let it take you to where you are now. Your fault you\u2019re depressed. <\/span><\/p>\n

People aren\u2019t mean or cruel by nature. Most people want to help each other. Your family and friends are giving their best effort at helping you. Depression just won\u2019t let any of that love or hope into your heart. You continue to be in pain. There\u2019s nothing that anyone says or does that lessens the pain. You can\u2019t explain or describe what\u2019s wrong, how the darkness makes you feel, or why you can\u2019t find the way out. When someone stops talking to you or visiting you, it\u2019s added to your list of what\u2019s wrong with me.<\/span><\/p>\n

What\u2019s a person who isn\u2019t depressed supposed to do? Try to be there for the depressed person. Try to understand and not judge. Talk to the person. Become educated about depression. Recognize that it\u2019s not a punishment from God or a sin.<\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s all great, but everyone has their limits. Family and friends have their own lives filled with emotional and mental health issues. It wears down even the strongest person when you\u2019re trying to help someone and nothing changes. Nothing good ever seems to come out of your efforts. The person is still depressed. In fact, the person now is telling you things you don\u2019t want to hear or talk about. You\u2019re tired, your health is starting to get bad, and your mind is over stressed thinking about the depressed person and your own problems. It\u2019s safer to leave because if you stick around you\u2019ll either say something nasty or your health will suffer. Besides, nothing seems to help change the person\u2019s outlook.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dealing with depression is not easy for anyone involved. As the one depressed, don\u2019t be angry or hurt when people stop talking to you. As you get better, the ones who abandoned you might return. If they don\u2019t, you\u2019ll have others in your life who will give you the emotional support you deserve. <\/span><\/p>\n

Understand that even in your darkest moment your angels, guides and God are always there for you. God doesn\u2019t judge you the same way as people. God understands and knows clearly your struggle with the darkness. There\u2019s no judgement, shame, or anger. However deep depression takes you, whatever the outcome of your choices, you haven\u2019t been abandoned by God or your angelic guides.<\/span><\/p>\n

* Click here to find out more about Terezia Farkas<\/a>\u00a0and her Depression help and click here to follow Terezia on Twitter<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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