{"id":1447,"date":"2016-06-14T06:43:42","date_gmt":"2016-06-14T06:43:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/depressionhelp\/?p=1447"},"modified":"2018-07-04T03:08:06","modified_gmt":"2018-07-04T03:08:06","slug":"the-truth-about-crying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/depressionhelp\/2016\/06\/the-truth-about-crying.html","title":{"rendered":"The Truth About Crying"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"truth<\/a><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

The truth about crying is simple. Really. It’s okay to cry. There’s no shame in it. No weakness. After Tom Zuba<\/a><\/span> lost three family members, he decided to make the journey of grief easier<\/a><\/span>. Ultimately, we don’t talk about grief. We don’t allow ourselves to experience it. That needs to change. This is one of Tom Zuba’s\u00a0poems, reprinted from his blog. Share it.<\/p>\n

From a very early age
\nthe world has told us
\nover
\nand over
\nand over
\nagain
\nthat it’s not okay to cry.
\nThat crying is a sign of weakness.
\nThat there is shame in crying.
\nThat people who cry are “less than.”<\/span><\/p>\n

We wear bracelets
\n(some of us)
\nthat say LiveStrong
\nbelieving that means
\nno tears.
\nEver.<\/p>\n

And when someone we love
\ndearly
\ndies
\nwe continue to blindly believe
\nthat message.
\nThat it’s not okay to cry.
\nWe work
\nreally,
\nreally,
\nreally hard
\nto convince ourself that it’s true.
\nThat we shouldn’t cry.<\/p>\n

The world has been lying to us.
\nAnd we believed all of it.
\nWe didn’t know any better.
\nHow would we?<\/p>\n

Crying is a human,
\nnormal,
\nappropriate,
\nhealthy,
\nhealing
\nresponse when someone we love dies.<\/p>\n

Crying helps us heal.
\nCrying washes away the old
\nand makes room for the new.<\/span><\/p>\n

Have mercy on yourself.
\nGive yourself permission to cry.
\nCry.
\nCry.
\nCry.
\nIf not now, when?<\/p>\n

There is a new way to do grief
\nand it includes crying.
\nPass it on so others will know.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Visit me on Twitter. Toss me a comment or two. I\u2019d love to hear from you.<\/h4>\n
Twitter: \u00a0@tereziafarkas \u00a0#grief \u00a0#goodgrief \u00a0#love<\/div>\n
*Click here to learn more about Terezia Farkas and Depression Help<\/a><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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