{"id":5009,"date":"2010-10-05T13:49:21","date_gmt":"2010-10-05T13:49:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/deaconsbench\/2010\/10\/was-there-no-one-to-step-between-tyler-clementi-and-that-bridge.html"},"modified":"2010-10-05T13:49:21","modified_gmt":"2010-10-05T13:49:21","slug":"was-there-no-one-to-step-between-tyler-clementi-and-that-bridge","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/deaconsbench\/2010\/10\/was-there-no-one-to-step-between-tyler-clementi-and-that-bridge.html","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;Was there no one to step between Tyler Clementi and that bridge?&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/deaconsbench\/800px-EBC1_150.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"800px-EBC1_150.jpg\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/212\/import\/assets_c\/2010\/10\/800px-EBC1_150-thumb-400x300-18271.jpg\" class=\"mt-image-center\" style=\"text-align: center;margin: 0pt auto 20px\" height=\"300\" width=\"400\" \/><\/a><\/span><br \/>\nThe tragedy of Tyler Clementi has provoked a lot of comment in the media, but <a href=\"http:\/\/www.albertmohler.com\/2010\/10\/04\/between-the-boy-and-the-bridge-a-haunting-question\/\">this essay by a renowned Baptist minister<\/a> struck me as particularly sharp, and challenging: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\nWhen gay activists accuse conservative Christians of homophobia, they are also right. Much of our response to homosexuality is rooted in ignorance and fear. We speak of homosexuals as a particular class of especially depraved sinners and we lie about how homosexuals experience their own struggle. Far too many evangelical pastors talk about sexual orientation with a crude dismissal or with glib assurances that gay persons simply choose to be gay. While most evangelicals know that the Bible condemns homosexuality, far too many find comfort in their own moralism, consigning homosexuals to a theological or moral category all their own.<\/p>\n<p>What if Tyler Clementi had been in your church? Would he have heard biblical truth presented in a context of humble truth-telling and gospel urgency, or would he have heard irresponsible slander, sarcastic jabs, and moralistic self-congratulation?<\/p>\n<p>The teenage years are hard enough to navigate. Most boys do not struggle with homosexuality, but there is not a teenage boy alive who does not struggle with sexual confusion. There is no deacon, preacher, or pew-sitter who went through male adolescence unscathed and without sin. There is not a human being who reaches school age who would not be humiliated by a well-placed webcam. And yet these boys &#8212; along with girls facing similar struggles &#8212; imagine themselves to be alone in their confusion and helpless in their anguish.<\/p>\n<p>Was there no one to step between Tyler Clementi and that bridge? Was there no friend, classmate, or trusted adult who had the courage and compassion to reach into his life and offer hope? Was there no one who could tell him that the anguish of his moment would not last for his lifetime? Was there no one to put into perspective the fact that people who did not love him had taken advantage of him, but that the many who did love him would love him no less?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.albertmohler.com\/2010\/10\/04\/between-the-boy-and-the-bridge-a-haunting-question\/\">Read the rest.<\/a>&nbsp; <\/p>\n<p>H\/T to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.newadvent.org\/\">New Advent.<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.albertmohler.com\/2010\/10\/04\/between-the-boy-and-the-bridge-a-haunting-question\/\"> <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The tragedy of Tyler Clementi has provoked a lot of comment in the media, but this essay by a renowned Baptist minister struck me as particularly sharp, and challenging: When gay activists accuse conservative Christians of homophobia, they are also right. Much of our response to homosexuality is rooted in ignorance and fear. 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