Catholics must marry in an actual church, so the castaway-esque nuptials are not an option. \u201cBecause the intimate connection between the sacrament of marriage and the community of faith, it is most appropriate that marriage be celebrated where the community gathers, namely the parish church,\u201d says Rev. Eric Andrews, CSP, pastor at the John XXIII University Parish. While there may not be cocktail umbrellas, this is actually a blessing: Getting married in a church is a less nerve-wracking choice. If it rains, there\u2019s a roof.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Clip and save. It’s must reading for anyone planning a wedding – or any cleric dreading one.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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