{"id":3123,"date":"2008-05-20T22:56:00","date_gmt":"2008-05-20T22:56:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/deaconsbench\/2008\/05\/priest-bans-autistic-boy-from-parish-updated.html"},"modified":"2008-05-20T22:56:00","modified_gmt":"2008-05-20T22:56:00","slug":"priest-bans-autistic-boy-from-parish-updated","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/deaconsbench\/2008\/05\/priest-bans-autistic-boy-from-parish-updated.html","title":{"rendered":"Priest bans autistic boy from parish – UPDATED"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’m not entirely sure what to make of this story<\/a>, out of Minnesota. I’m sure the priest must have very good reasons for choosing this course of action. But if I had to ask myself WWJD … well, I don’t think it would be this:<\/p>\n

The mother of a 13-year-old autistic boy who was banned by a court order from attending services at a Roman Catholic church in Bertha, Minn., woke up Sunday determined to take her son to mass.<\/p>\n

But Carol Race changed her mind when Todd County Sheriff Pete Mikkelson met her at the end of her driveway Sunday and told her she would be arrested if she brought her son, Adam, into the Church of St. Joseph.<\/p>\n

Instead, Race took Adam and her four other children to mass at Christ the King Church in nearby Browerville, Minn. “It occurred to me that if I step foot in [St. Joseph], they will arrest me and I won’t end up going to mass anyway,” she said.<\/p>\n

A court hearing on the matter has been continued until June 2 so that Race can hire an attorney.<\/p>\n

The dispute has drawn attention to what Race and advocates for the disabled say is a lack of education and understanding about autism. Race said that even though her son, who is home-schooled, sometimes acts up in church, the experience benefits him.<\/p>\n

“He has a sense of the routine,” she said. “That’s one of the beautiful things about the Catholic mass for autistic individuals, its routine.”<\/p>\n

The Rev. Daniel Walz, who did not return calls left at the Church of St. Joseph parish office, wrote in court documents that Adam’s behavior was “extremely disruptive and dangerous.” He alleged that Adam, who is more than 6 feet tall and weighs over 225 pounds, spits and urinates in church and has nearly injured children and elderly people.<\/p>\n

In an affidavit, Walz wrote: “The parish members and I have been very patient and understanding. I have made repeated efforts through Catholic Education Ministries, Caritas Family Services, and most recently, sought to try and mediate the matter with the family to ask them to voluntarily not bring Adam to church, but it has been to no avail.” The Diocese of St. Cloud said in a statement that the restraining order, issued May 9, was “a last resort.”<\/p>\n

Race said Walz’s descriptions of Adam’s behavior illustrate that he understands little about autistic behavior and how to address it. She said that Walz used language like “urinate” to describe an incontinence problem that Adam sometimes has which is no worse than that an elderly person or a young child might have.<\/p>\n

Adam’s parents sometimes tie his hands and feet with fabric restraints, which Race said is a technique used by other families and school personnel who work with autistic children. At Sunday’s service in Browerville, Race said Adam participated in the service, kneeling with the congregation and accompanying family members when they went up front to take communion.<\/p>\n

Carol Race said that her husband, John, attended mass at St. Joseph’s on Saturday evening without his family and had stayed home Sunday morning because the family wanted to ensure that one parent would be available to care for the children if Carol were arrested.<\/p>\n

The restraining order will remain in place for one year.<\/p>\n

The Races haven’t decided whether they will attend another parish. “My primary focus is to do the right thing, according to what God wants me to do,” Carol Race said. “Without church every Sunday, my family life would have fallen apart. This is what sustains us.”<\/p>\n

Sheriff Mikkelson said he sent deputies to Sunday’s service in case the Races tried to violate the restraining order.<\/p>\n

“It was an uncomfortable thing, and we didn’t want to get involved,” he said. “She heeded our warning. Now, hopefully, this will get resolved through our courts.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

All concerned, I think, need our prayers.<\/p>\n

UPDATE:<\/b> There’s a very good assessment of the situation at this blog<\/a>, including comments from a priest who knows the mother of the boy in question.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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