{"id":2105,"date":"2007-11-26T17:06:00","date_gmt":"2007-11-26T17:06:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/deaconsbench\/2007\/11\/when-a-church-closes-i-went-all-my-life-and-then-they-threw-me-out.html"},"modified":"2007-11-26T17:06:00","modified_gmt":"2007-11-26T17:06:00","slug":"when-a-church-closes-i-went-all-my-life-and-then-they-threw-me-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/deaconsbench\/2007\/11\/when-a-church-closes-i-went-all-my-life-and-then-they-threw-me-out.html","title":{"rendered":"When a church closes: “I went all my life, and then they threw me out”"},"content":{"rendered":"

It’s becoming a familiar story: a parish closes, and the flock can do little more than grieve. It happened again this weekend in Buffalo, and the local paper<\/a> picks up the story: <\/p>\n

<\/a>The Kilgen pipe organ thundered for the last time. A rendition of \u201cAve Maria\u201d echoed gloriously among the decorative oak rafters. A haze of incense hung over the pews. <\/p>\n

And 83-year-old Florence Maziarz was reduced to tears during the closing Mass in Queen of Peace Catholic Church on Genesee Street \u2014 one of five Catholic parishes holding final liturgies Sunday. <\/p>\n

\u201cPeople\u2019s hearts are broken,\u201d she said. \u201cWhen they sang \u2018Ave Maria\u2019 in church today, I cried like a baby.\u201d <\/p>\n

A deep, abiding sadness isn\u2019t the only sentiment Catholics are expressing about church closings. <\/p>\n

As the toll mounts, feelings of anger, frustration, disappointment and betrayal have been growing. <\/p>\n

Some Catholics say they might never join another parish. Others insist they will have to watch Mass on television now, because, with their church closed, they won\u2019t have transportation to a different church. <\/p>\n

St. John Gualbert Catholic Church in Cheektowaga is prepared to accept members of Queen of Peace and Holy Name of Jesus on Bailey Avenue, an inactive worship site that also closed on Sunday. <\/p>\n

But Morris Johnson, who served for 20 years as an usher at Queen of Peace, doubts he will go to a new parish. <\/p>\n

\u201cI haven\u2019t got no way to get there,\u201d said Johnson, who is 79 and no longer drives. <\/p>\n

Maziarz isn\u2019t sure where her next church will be \u2014 or even if she will find one. <\/p>\n

Other Catholics from closed parishes say they also feel orphaned from their spiritual homes \u2014 in many cases the churches where they were baptized and from which they expected to be buried. <\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t think we\u2019ll ever forget about it. It just hurt a lot of people,\u201d said Florence Zuchlewski, 80, who had spent her entire life as a member of St. Florian Catholic Church on Hertel Avenue in Black Rock until the church closed Oct. 28. <\/p>\n

The closing was a bitter experience for Zuchlewski, a faithful Mass attender who considered opting out of the obligatory weekend liturgy. <\/p>\n

\u201cI said, \u2018What did it do?\u2019 I went all my life, and then they threw me out,\u201d she said. <\/p>\n

Zuchlewski changed her mind, though, and now goes to Mass in All Saints Catholic Church in Riverside. But she says she doubts she ever will enroll as a member. <\/p>\n

\u201cI just can\u2019t join a church. I\u2019m afraid if I get really attached, they\u2019re liable to end up closing that one. I don\u2019t think I could handle it. Once is enough,\u201d she said. <\/p><\/blockquote>\n

There’s a lot of hard feelings out there. Read the rest<\/a> to get a sense of it. <\/p>\n

We all know that a church is more than a building, and “being Church” is more than showing up for mass and sitting down at pancake suppers. But when generations have spent some of the most valuable and meaningful moments of their lives kneeling in those pews, praying before those statues, it’s painful. For many, that building is where they had babies baptized and daughters married and husbands buried; it’s where they received first communion, and where they spent countless midnights gathered for mass at Christmas mass. The spiritual connection is palpable. It’s in their bones. <\/p>\n

The loss is real, and we can’t deny it or diminish it. If this is going to be happening with greater frequency — and I think it is — we need to find a way to help people cope and mourn and heal. <\/p>\n

Photo: by Derek Gee, Buffalo News <\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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