{"id":383,"date":"2015-11-19T03:56:51","date_gmt":"2015-11-19T03:56:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/cutthecrapspirituality\/?p=383"},"modified":"2015-10-02T21:41:13","modified_gmt":"2015-10-02T21:41:13","slug":"loss-and-appreciation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/cutthecrapspirituality\/2015\/11\/loss-and-appreciation.html","title":{"rendered":"Loss and Appreciation"},"content":{"rendered":"

I used to run between 20 to 40 miles a week until I ripped my hamstring in a waterskiing accident. That was over a year ago, and I still cannot run like I used to.<\/p>\n

The loss of running has caused me to truly appreciate running like never before. It got me to thinking about that old adage – we don’t really appreciate what we have until we lose it.<\/p>\n

I wonder if that is how it is with God and life? If God is permanency in everything, how can it know what it is? How can it appreciate being it all? There is nothing to compare itself to. There is no loss to appreciate what it has\/is.<\/p>\n

Maybe that’s where life comes in. Through life God can experience loss through the process of change and death. And in experiencing change and death, God can appreciate what it is – everything and permanency – because it is allowed to experience what it is not.<\/p>\n

Just like it took losing running for me to truly appreciate running, maybe life (loss of permanency) is what God created to allow itself to truly appreciate what it is (permanency). Maybe God created life to know it is alive.<\/p>\n

Timothy Velner is a husband, father, attorney and author living in Minneapolis. You can follow his daily blog \u2013 a series of discussions between the worry-self and the present-self at – thespiritualgym.me<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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I remember on those Sundays righteously thinking \u2013 I\u2019ve got my crap together. All my friends are at home sleeping, and when it all comes to an end, I\u2019ll be standing tall. After college I continued to trudge through life dotting my i\u2019s and crossing my t\u2019s \u2013 all on my way toward a supposed happy ending. Through the early part of law school I continued with church every Sunday and even picked up a teaching gig \u2013 Wednesday-night catechism. I was checking boxes and nothing was going to stand in my way \u2013 double-toothpicks would never know the likes of me. As time went on in law school, however, things slowly began to change. Training to be an attorney required that I to pay attention to my words and actions. No more doing things just to do them. Success in law school demanded that I understood why things were said and what they meant. It was a new experience for me \u2013 personal responsibility for my thoughts and actions. Little did I know, however, I was on a crash course with religion. As I continued with church and teaching catechism, things started to unravel. I started thinking about what I was saying. And a lot of it didn\u2019t make sense. In fact, a lot of it seemed quite absurd. How could a loving God condemn someone to hell? If God was all-powerful, why would hell even exist? How could there be one true church when much of religion was determined by geography? But what really got me was the selective adoration of God. If someone was cured of cancer, it was always through the grace of God, but where was God when someone died a tragic death? The religious hypothesis for life failed the consistency test. Too many things just didn\u2019t make sense. But who was I to question religion? Besides, questioning took a lot of work and left a lot of uncertainty - It was much easier to do what I was told, and hope for the best. So I plowed ahead with the prescribed formula \u2013 be nice, go to church, believe in Jesus and maybe dump a little money in the basket. But as the weeks and months went by that formula revealed itself as more and more contrived. It smelled crappy - of humans trying to control each other. I wanted to cut ties, but was scared to leave. I still needed something to help me with the uncertainty of life, and didn\u2019t know where to turn. So I reluctantly continued down the same path. As time proceeded, however, that path became more and more restrictive. I had become a caged bird and was looking for my keeper to open the door. Slowly I began to realize that I was my own keeper. I started exploring other religions, philosophies and spiritualties. I attended churches of different denominations. I spoke to anyone who had an interest in the topic. I took it all in, and it slowly digested. I began listening to my own voice. My keeper was ready to open the door. 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