{"id":777,"date":"2014-05-30T19:56:58","date_gmt":"2014-05-30T19:56:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/commonsensechristianity\/?p=777"},"modified":"2014-05-30T20:02:25","modified_gmt":"2014-05-30T20:02:25","slug":"when-our-dreams-never-come-true","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/commonsensechristianity\/2014\/05\/when-our-dreams-never-come-true.html","title":{"rendered":"When Our Dreams Never Come True"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Dreams are living, vibrant things, like flowers, and trees, that have a season and a time, and they’re always changing. But they’re alive. Field of Dreams, original oil painting by Steve Henderson<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

From the time we are schoolchildren, we are regularly assured,<\/p>\n

“You can be anything you want to be. Just dream it, and it will come true.”<\/p>\n

Do an Internet search on “following your dreams” and you’ll come up with everything from Dream Believe Achieve\u00a0(or, Dream Believe Receive for the Christian version) to You Can Do It! Just Believe! (Christian version: God Will Do It! Just Believe!)<\/p>\n

We all have dreams, desires, hopes, and aspirations — part of being made in the image of God is that we desire to create, just like our Father. The significant difference between us and Him is that while He creates out of nothing, we create under His guidance, teaching, and direction:<\/p>\n

“To a man belong the plans of the heart,”<\/em>\u00a0Proverbs 16: 1 tells us, “but from the Lord comes the reply of the tongue,”<\/em>\u00a0and in 16: 9, “In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps.”<\/em><\/p>\n

God Is Involved in Our Dreams<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

These verses take us beyond inane reassurances that Belief alone, and enough of it, will lead us to our goal, because even as schoolchildren we say to ourselves,<\/p>\n

“I want to do this impossible thing, but how?”<\/p>\n

Only believe! just doesn’t cut it, although if you watch too much TV and read too many You Can Do It! books, you will consistently belabor under the impression that things aren’t working out because of you, somehow.<\/p>\n

“What, specifically, am I supposed to believe\u00a0in<\/em>?” is a valid question. “In me? In some power within me? In my influence with God? If it’s God I believe in, then aren’t I supposed to trust that He knows best what to do with my life, including my dreams?”<\/p>\n

God Really Isn’t\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>Irritable<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

On the other end of the spectrum, if the\u00a0god\u00a0you serve is the impatient, destructive, irritated being that too many Christians mistake for God, you don’t even bother having dreams, because\u00a0your substitute\u00a0has his own plan, and he’ll squeeze you into it, no matter how painful it is to you.<\/p>\n

“God wants you out of your comfort zone!” is the sing-song response by some shallow creature\u00a0stomping on your pearls\u00a0— your aching, longing dream — which isn’t coming true.<\/p>\n

Let’s shoot that sentence and bury it once and for all, okay?<\/p>\n

Following our dreams is a dance that involves letting God lead,\u00a0because,<\/p>\n

“If the Lord delights in a man’s way, he makes his steps firm; though he stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with his hand.”<\/em>\u00a0(Psalm 37: 23-24)<\/p>\n

A Valid Question<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

So now the valid question is: “How do I know if the Lord delights in my way?”<\/p>\n

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When we allow God to direct our steps, we can walk with confidence on the path set before us, because we’re not walking it alone. Cadence, original oil painting by Steve Henderson; licensed open edition print at Great Big Canvas and iCanvasART.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Excellent question. One of the reasons it frequently takes so long to achieve our dreams is because the dreams, and the dreamers, need finessing. Back to Proverbs 16, verse 2:<\/p>\n

“All a man’s ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the Lord.”<\/em><\/p>\n

In the rare moments when we are truly honest with ourselves, and God, we admit that we want that position at work not just because we can help more people (which is the reason we give to God), but also because we’ll get a hefty salary increase and\u00a0its attendant social distinction.\u00a0Or we seek additional\u00a0speaking\u00a0engagements not only because we have a message about God’s love and acceptance we want our hearers to hear (God version) but because we want more hearers so that the people who said we were losers in high school would be proven wrong, if only in our minds.<\/p>\n

A Pure Heart Is Priceless — and It Protects Us<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

It’s not wrong to pray for the job position or the speaking engagements, but if God grants them to us while our heart is divided about why we want them,\u00a0you can bet that our negative motives will overshadow our positive ones. We mean too much to God to be spoiled.<\/p>\n

“You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want,”<\/em>\u00a0James 4: 2 tells us.<\/p>\n

“You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with the wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”<\/em><\/p>\n

If you’re like me, you are convinced, that within your dreams, you have the right motives, but the waiting period — which seems so fruitless and exasperating — is a time to continually draw before Him, learn from Him, and allow him to bring about the renewing of our minds (Romans 12: 2) that purifies our heart — so that it is not damaged by the additional temptations that accompany the fulfillment of God’s answer. \u00a0Part of “directing our steps” is keeping them side by side with His, and this involves — moment by moment — submitting our will, and our dreams, into His hands.<\/p>\n

Thank You<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Thank you for joining me at Commonsense Christianity. I find great comfort in knowing that my primary job, on this earth, is to trust God, and that He will direct the outcome. While it’s hard to trust, it’s feasible, which is more than can be said about tapping into non-existent internal power — or worse, tapping into very existent power that does not draw from God.<\/p>\n

Posts similar to this one are<\/p>\n

Only . . . BELIEVE!<\/a><\/p>\n

When You Can’t Take It Anymore<\/a><\/p>\n

Praying for Something BIG? Five Points to Ponder<\/a><\/p>\n

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