{"id":714,"date":"2006-10-18T11:38:00","date_gmt":"2006-10-18T11:38:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/chatteringmind\/2006\/10\/what-if-men-and-women-just-got-along.html"},"modified":"2006-10-18T11:38:00","modified_gmt":"2006-10-18T11:38:00","slug":"what-if-men-and-women-just-got-along","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/chatteringmind\/2006\/10\/what-if-men-and-women-just-got-along.html","title":{"rendered":"What If Men and Women Just Got Along?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cThere hasn\u2019t been a battle between the sexes,\u201d says Warren Farrell, author of \u201cWomen Can\u2019t Hear What Men Don\u2019t Say.\u201d<\/a> \u201cThere\u2019s been a war in which only one side has shown up. Men\u2019s cowardice has prevented them from showing up because they\u2019re so addicted to female sexuality.\u201d <\/p>\n

This quote is from Jennifer Armstrong’s article “Men Don’t Suck,” <\/a>which you can read for free in the online magazine “Sirens.” The whole of the piece is actually quite favorable to men generally, but I happened to find the above quote arresting enough to highlight. Here’s another passage from the text of Armstrong’s excellent piece:<\/p>\n

These days, we women are inundated with advice about how to get a man. There are hundreds\u2014maybe even thousands\u2014of books on the subject, and every women\u2019s magazine every month devotes significant space to tips, tips, and more tips. We\u2019re taught how to catch them, keep them, use them, trick them, manipulate them, please them, conquer them\u2014how to, basically, achieve them. Because that\u2019s what our generation of girls does, right? We kick ass. We have accomplishments to check off. Men are just one more thing on our to-do lists.<\/p>\n

But what if instead, we started by liking them? What if we achieved equality not by dominating them, but by partnering with them? What if we accepted them just as they are? What if we didn\u2019t try to \u201cfix\u201d them?<\/p>\n

My answer: We\u2019d have the best damn relationships possible\u2014the kind where you can discuss important world issues with a man you genuinely like, dissect pop culture with him, laugh with him \u2026 and then have some great sex with him, too. The kind where you haven\u2019t tricked him or manipulated him into anything, so he loves you just as you are. And you love him in all of his silly, stupid, infuriating, intriguing, awe-inspiring masculinity.<\/p>\n

Next month: He\u2019s a Husband, Not a Pet or a Houseplant<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I’m looking forward to that next installment.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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