{"id":648,"date":"2006-09-20T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2006-09-20T12:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/chatteringmind\/2006\/09\/on-hate-and-healing.html"},"modified":"2006-09-20T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2006-09-20T12:00:00","slug":"on-hate-and-healing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/chatteringmind\/2006\/09\/on-hate-and-healing.html","title":{"rendered":"On Hate and Healing"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Even before I looked at your posts regarding what you do when you dislike or hate someone, I found wisdom in the September issue of ‘Shambhala Sun’<\/a> (such a good magazine), which referred to Thich Nhat Hanh’s advice on managing angry feelings: The noted Vietnamese monk suggests you say, “Oh, my baby anger,” while cradling your rage in your “loving arms.” I’ll pass that along to my son. <\/p>\n

I really don’t hate <\/em>anyone these days either. But when upset by others, I sometimes limp around feeling disgruntled. When this happens, I see that my chattering mind is working overtime, and that my thoughts are defining me again. <\/p>\n

Here’s what you guys had to say on this tough subject: <\/p>\n

From Daria: “When I meet someone with whom I clash, I just admit it…Mostly, though, I pray. It may take time, but it’s near-impossible to feel negative about someone for whom I’m praying.<\/p>\n

Thanks to Elmo for this: “…it’s those who describe themselves along the lines of “ultra-accepting progressives” who seem to be the most divisive, probably because they are the least willing to face that they are not as accepting as they would like to be.”<\/p>\n

Writes Rebeccat: “My approval or disapproval of [someone else’s] behavior is simply not relevant in the scheme of things. Very few people are intentionally toxic or hurtful…Knowing this helps me not to take offense at such behavior.” <\/p>\n

From LMS: “Hate is not a good thing to feel.”<\/p>\n

Jan Riggs taught her son to look “deeper” when faced with a bully or unpleasant person: “That person is the MOST in need of love.”<\/p>\n

Says Anna: “I’ve found phraseology to be particularly effective in easing my own hurt or anger…Let them<\/em> find what they need to move along their path, let their hearts be wrapped in love and comfort.”<\/p>\n

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