{"id":362,"date":"2006-05-11T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2006-05-11T12:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/chatteringmind\/2006\/05\/learning-from-our-mothers-mist.html"},"modified":"2006-05-11T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2006-05-11T12:00:00","slug":"learning-from-our-mothers-mist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/chatteringmind\/2006\/05\/learning-from-our-mothers-mist.html","title":{"rendered":"Learning From Our Mother’s Mistakes"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Mother’s Day is not easy for those whose moms didn’t “deliver,” or for those whose moms are dead. Here’s a user-generated article <\/a>from Beliefnet.com’s Mother’s Day package, helpful to those feeling distanced from the upcoming commemoration on Sunday. <\/p>\n

My own mother was wonderfully complicated. Sexy, funny, artistic…clank!<\/em> Then unreasonable and remote. I had a dream about her once that really helps clarify my experience of being with her. (Dreams are such wonderful gifts, don’t you think?) In the dream, I’m a little girl again, standing near dark velvet curtains on the periphery of a Broadway-sized stage. My mother is under a spotlight, on her hands and knees, at center stage, frantically sanding the floor. She is working so hard. And when I timidly step out onto the stage, my mother turns and yells: “Get off! Get off the stage! Can’t you see I’m sanding it?”<\/p>\n

Oh. Okay. There was no way to relieve her suffering, or share her space. <\/p>\n

I think about this dream when I am compelled to empty the dishwasher instead of playing a board game with my kids. I know I can be guilty of the same sort of mom-ish “hey I’m busy here!” But I’m learning to hew less hard to this inherited character trait. Hard to do, but definitely possible.<\/p>\n

Let’s not sand the stage, ladies, shall we? It’s a big stage and no one should sand it by themselves. Or sand it at all. Ever again.<\/p>\n

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