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I love this word:\u00a0beshert which is Yiddish for ‘meant to be’. It refers to the heart and soul connection between partners whose reunion is predestined. There is a similar concept in the Gaelic language, called Anam Cara<\/em> <\/strong>(soul friend). I know for certain that every relationship I have ever been or ever will be in has that flavor to it. Even those that I wouldn’t wish to repeat, were called to me for a valuable purpose which is to learn something I might not have, had our paths not crossed. Some taught me about what I didn’t want and some that I desire with every fiber of my being.\u00a0 It is said that relationships are there for a reason, season or lifetime and are no less valid even if they are brief encounters.<\/p>\n

I count myself blessed to have many of what I consider those types of relationships that ripen by duration. There are some folks who I don’t see face to face often, but we pick up where we left off and others who I am with regularly. Depth and frequency of contact are not one in the same. I allow some people in more deeply than others, by choice, inclination and a sense of safety with them. Some of them have been lovers and our relationships have shifted. Others are platonic and no less treasured, just different energies.<\/p>\n

How do I know that a relationship falls into the beshert box?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

At our initial meeting, there is a\u00a0feeling of “Oh there you are again, how long has it been?”<\/p>\n

A goofy shared sense of humor, laughing at the cosmic joke.<\/p>\n

A heart-racing feeling of\u00a0 “I’m so excited to be in your presence,” whether it is physical or just emotional.<\/p>\n

A synching up of energies; thinking of that person and then they get in contact with me.<\/p>\n

A shared passion for life.<\/p>\n

Being able to talk freely about ‘life, the Universe and everything’, never running out of things to say.<\/p>\n

Comfortable silence.<\/p>\n

A knowing that there was a ‘sacred soul contract’ that we agreed to eons ago that we are living out now.<\/p>\n

Being a greater force for good in the world\u00a0together.<\/p>\n

What does it mean to you?<\/em><\/p>\n

Beshert\u00a0 by Ari Gold<\/p>\n