{"id":3809,"date":"2012-09-03T22:18:47","date_gmt":"2012-09-04T02:18:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/blissblog\/?p=3809"},"modified":"2012-09-03T22:18:47","modified_gmt":"2012-09-04T02:18:47","slug":"with-an-open-hand","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/blissblog\/2012\/09\/with-an-open-hand.html","title":{"rendered":"With An Open Hand"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/107\/2012\/09\/withanopenhand1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3813\" title=\"withanopenhand\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/107\/2012\/09\/withanopenhand1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"348\" height=\"400\" \/><\/a>\u201cRenew, release, let go. Yesterday\u2019s gone. There\u2019s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can\u2019t \u201cshould\u2019ve\u201d done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is a new day!\u201d\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Steve Maraboli\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Life, the Truth and Being Free<\/p>\n<p>What are you holding onto that&#8217;s holding on to you?\u00a0 In my case, ghosts from the past; decisions for which I wish I could have do-overs, relationship dynamics that I would like to change, job choices, health choices, conversations&#8230;. All of these experiences call out for a re-wind button, and yet, as sure as tomorrow is Tuesday, there is not thing one that I can do to alter what happened. Heck, even if I could, I wouldn&#8217;t want to mess with the space-time continuum. Who knows what havoc that could wreak?<\/p>\n<p>I have often considered that if the me that I was had made different choices, the me that I am, might not exist. Had I selected\u00a0another educational\/career path, I might have lived in another part of the country, not met my husband, not adopted our son, not created Visions Magazine, not been with\u00a0Michael as\u00a0as he passed, not become a free lance journalist and speaker, not become an interfaith minister. I might not be writing this column, might not have the people in my life now that I so treasure. I say &#8216;might&#8217;, because there is some aspect of the soul contract idea that appeals to me, that tells me that certain relationships are &#8216;beshert&#8217;, which is Hebrew for &#8216;meant to be&#8217;.\u00a0 Perhaps the events are in some form, mapped out too, as they seemed to be in one of my favorite movies:\u00a0 Forrest Gump. He always appeared to be at the right place and the right time. I use that affirmation as well, declaring that I am always at the right place at the right time for whatever I most need to learn and grow.<\/p>\n<p>I have discovered that whatever I hold with a closed hand (like sand or water), will run through my fingers and whatever I hold with an open hand and heart, I can, paradoxically, keep with me longer or allow to blow away into the wind. That includes my past and the people in it with whom I would preferred to have danced differently or\u00a0 perhaps not at all. Sometimes it is better to leave them back there, rather than carrying them with me into a future in which they have no place. Maybe they needed to let go of me as I released them into their new lives.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s to open hands!<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=bcrEqIpi6sg\">www.youtube.com\/watch?v=bcrEqIpi6sg<\/a> Both Sides Now by Joni Mitchell<\/p>\n<p>Thank you, Arielle Ford&#8230;this picture connected to one of your posts was the perfect writing prompt for this entry.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cRenew, release, let go. Yesterday\u2019s gone. There\u2019s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can\u2019t \u201cshould\u2019ve\u201d done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is a new day!\u201d\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Steve Maraboli\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Life, the Truth and Being Free What are you holding onto that&#8217;s holding on to you?\u00a0 In my case, ghosts&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":233,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[40,1,2,13,19,3,14,16,7],"tags":[2179,2175,2177,2171,1894,2178,2173,2176,2172,2174,246],"class_list":["post-3809","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-affirmations","category-attracting-what-you-desire","category-bliss","category-blissfull-thinking","category-empowerment","category-gratitude","category-how-to-invite-bliss","category-my-personal-bliss","category-re-creating-your-life","tag-arielle-ford","tag-beshert","tag-both-sides-now","tag-forrest-gump","tag-interfaith-minister","tag-joni-mitchell","tag-life","tag-space-time-continuum","tag-steve-maraboli","tag-the-truth-and-being-free","tag-visions-magazine"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>With An Open Hand - The Bliss Blog<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/blissblog\/2012\/09\/with-an-open-hand.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"With An Open Hand - The Bliss Blog\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"\u201cRenew, release, let go. 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