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Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy, but the worst habit you could possibly have.<\/em>
\n– Dale Carnegie<\/p>\n

Whine, whine, whine.\u00a0 Haven\u2019t we all been there?\u00a0 We see thin people chow down on brownies and ice cream and just watching them makes our fat cells expand. We cry, \u201cIt\u2019s not fair!\u201d and buy a candy bar to console ourselves.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>Not smart.<\/p>\n

The worst thing you can do is fall into the \u201cIt\u2019s hopeless,\u201d \u201cI can\u2019t\u201d self-pity pit.\u00a0 (I know, I\u2019ve spent some time in that hole myself.) \u00a0Dwelling on how losing weight, or life in general, is so much harder for you than others, takes a huge toll on your emotional energy. \u00a0When you have expended your “oomph” in anger, you won’t have it to be doing something productive. \u00a0Even worse, it’s as if you dig a groove into your brain every time you yield to those negative thoughts. \u00a0“I can’t, I can’t. \u00a0It’s no use,” you think. \u00a0Pretty soon you will have convinced yourself of that so thoroughly that it becomes true. \u00a0Self pity can become a habit. A joy-sapping, energy-deleting, defeating habit.<\/p>\n

So get out of the pit! \u00a0No one guaranteed you a “fair” life. \u00a0Shake it off and do what you have to do to succeed.\u00a0\u00a0 If your weight loss efforts haven’t been successful, you just have to figure out what is holding you back — and adjust for it.\u00a0 Maybe you need to try harder. Cheat less.\u00a0 Push for more steps in your step program.\u00a0 No program will work unless you work it. Maybe it will be harder for you and will take you longer, but you will get there. \u00a0When you do, you will have earned the right to be proud of yourself for accomplishing something difficult, even more difficult than for other folks.<\/p>\n

The only other option is staying in the pit until you are too sick to do anything else. \u00a0So climb out and head back down the road to the place you want to be — beyond gorgeous!<\/p>\n

Eating to live and living for Christ,<\/p>\n

Susan Jordan Brown<\/p>\n

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Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy, but the worst habit you could possibly have. – Dale Carnegie Whine, whine, whine.\u00a0 Haven\u2019t we all been there?\u00a0 We see thin people chow down on brownies and ice cream and just watching them makes our fat cells expand. 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