{"id":7113,"date":"2013-02-19T06:00:30","date_gmt":"2013-02-19T11:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/?p=7113"},"modified":"2013-02-17T14:56:41","modified_gmt":"2013-02-17T19:56:41","slug":"the-depression-rules-how-one-marriage-overcomes-a-chronic-illness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2013\/02\/the-depression-rules-how-one-marriage-overcomes-a-chronic-illness.html","title":{"rendered":"The Depression Rules: How One Marriage Overcomes a Chronic Illness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/71\/2013\/01\/holding-hands.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/71\/2013\/01\/holding-hands.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"220\" height=\"165\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-6844\" \/><\/a><em>For Valentine&#8217;s Day, I wrote <a href=\"http:\/\/www.everydayhealth.com\/depression\/the-depression-rules-how-one-marriage-overcomes-a-chronic-illness-1192.aspx\" target=\"_blank\">a piece for Everyday Health<\/a> on how Eric and I stick together despite an illness that taxes both of us physically and emotionally. To read the piece, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.everydayhealth.com\/depression\/the-depression-rules-how-one-marriage-overcomes-a-chronic-illness-1192.aspx\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>click this link<\/strong><\/a>. Here is the beginning &#8230;.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;In sickness and in health.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Folks rarely think about the implication of those five words when they utter them. The wedding cake wouldn\u2019t taste as good if a bride or groom cataloged during the nuptial ceremony all the possibilities that could happen in the future and what she or he would do in that circumstance.  What happens when the \u201cin health part\u201d takes a major backseat to the \u201cin sickness\u201d vow? When the caretaker role is disproportionate to the soul mate\/best friend role, resentment seeps in \u2014 and it can easily break apart the bond of married life.<\/p>\n<p>I emerged from my mother\u2019s womb depressed. So my husband knew he was marrying a person with fragile wiring. But he wasn\u2019t prepared for the massive breakdown I experienced after the birth of our second child. After two hospital stays, seven psychiatrist, and 23 medication combinations over the period of two years, I was diagnosed with manic depression and made the gradual ascent to heath.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.everydayhealth.com\/depression\/the-depression-rules-how-one-marriage-overcomes-a-chronic-illness-1192.aspx\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Continue reading<\/strong>.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For Valentine&#8217;s Day, I wrote a piece for Everyday Health on how Eric and I stick together despite an illness that taxes both of us physically and emotionally. To read the piece, click this link. 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