{"id":608,"date":"2007-11-05T10:30:01","date_gmt":"2007-11-05T10:30:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2007\/11\/franks-selfesteem-file.html"},"modified":"2007-11-05T10:30:01","modified_gmt":"2007-11-05T10:30:01","slug":"franks-selfesteem-file","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/11\/franks-selfesteem-file.html","title":{"rendered":"Frank’s Self-Esteem File"},"content":{"rendered":"

One Beyond Blue<\/a> reader has already turned in his homework assignment! I’m waiting for the others. If you haven’t already written to four friends and started your own self-esteem file<\/a>, then I think Frank’s assessment of his process will prod you along. Wonderful stuff, Frank, thanks!<\/p>\n

Not at all sure where to begin, except to say that this has proved to be an invaluable lesson in my own self-worth. I know that men operate under the premise that they can’t or won’t do this, that it flies in the face of who they are or hold themselves to be. I decided it was worth a shot, to have another tool in my toolbelt to fix that part of me that seems broken. It was terrific. The replies came in over several days – maybe a week. So, I had these little, divine moments when I saw myself in a new light. This morning, I copied and pasted the reply e-mails into a single Word doc and read them again. I’m somehow transformed. I’ll need to read them again – just to be sure, but I think I’m beginning to perceive myself as this different dude. Now, I didn’t spend my life saying I’m not worthy – but some of my actions said it pretty clearly. That’s where the change has been most evident. I gained a sense of worth and confidence that isn’t challenged by myself. In life, we’ll have moments and persons who challenge our perception of who we are. But if we believe, truly believe in ourselves, the barbs and slings of life won’t sting nearly so deeply.
\nI needed a blessing. What Therese did was encourage us to ask for the blessing we deserve.
\nI’m hanging onto my list and checking it twice. \ud83d\ude42<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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