{"id":514,"date":"2007-09-25T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2007-09-25T11:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2007\/09\/a-blog-eat-blog-world.html"},"modified":"2007-09-25T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2007-09-25T11:00:00","slug":"a-blog-eat-blog-world","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/09\/a-blog-eat-blog-world.html","title":{"rendered":"A Blog Eat Blog World"},"content":{"rendered":"

Surfing the Internet is becoming a dangerous activity for me.
\nThe day after I wrote my post, “Is It a Relapse?<\/a>,” about how very scared I was of returning to the Black Hole<\/a> (or the “dark holes” as Mother Teresa said<\/a>), I wrote a reader to thank her for her comment on the post. She wrote back and mentioned her blog, so I checked it out. (Because I like to help support fellow bloggers \u2026. So if you have a blog, please mention it to me and I\u2019ll try to find a way to incorporate it into a post.)
\nHer post that day was a celebration of my relapse, “so little miss perfect DOESN\u2019T do everything right.”
\nI came away hurt, of course, feeling exactly like I did when in fourth grade my best friends gave me a letter of constructive criticism, which detailed each of my qualities that they found annoying (Close to thirty years and tons of therapy later, and I can\u2019t forget the bloody letter).
\nBut whatever. I need to embrace this (mean) chick because she suffers from depression too, and so she is a soul sister of mine (as are all women who suffer from a mood disorder\u2014the men are brothers of course).<\/p>\n


\nThen last week, I was looking around at other mental-health blogs because it seems that you, Beyond Blue readers, appreciate when I can send you to another useful source, like I\u2019ve been doing with James over at Finding Optimisim<\/a>.
\nI\u2019ve visited “The Splintered Mind<\/a>” by Douglas Cootey before, and I like his style, because he has a good sense of humor (and in my mind, you can\u2019t write about this stuff without a funny bone, or else you are going to depress people even more.
\nBut the blog post I read was about whining<\/a>, specifically my whining, and how he really didn\u2019t want to sound like me so he was going to try to keep it positive.
\nI felt the punch in the gut again. Then I did the responsible thing: sent his post<\/a> to a few of my good friends to get their take (and to ask them “Do I whine? Is it annoying? Do you like me? Does anyone like me? Will anyone show up at my funeral?”). And they didn\u2019t think it was a slam on me at all. They actually thought Douglas was complimenting me, in an indirect sort of humorous way (all of a sudden wit lost its appeal).
\nSo I read it again, and I wasn\u2019t as offended. I even sent him an e-mail telling him I liked his site very much and I was going to make a concerted effort to link to his stuff more often.
\nI think I\u2019ll wait a little bit before reading another blog, though. All this not getting your feelings hurt is rather exhausting.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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