{"id":351,"date":"2007-07-16T11:10:14","date_gmt":"2007-07-16T11:10:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2007\/07\/dear-guardian-angel-two.html"},"modified":"2007-07-16T11:10:14","modified_gmt":"2007-07-16T11:10:14","slug":"dear-guardian-angel-two","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/07\/dear-guardian-angel-two.html","title":{"rendered":"Dear Guardian Angel Two"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Guardian Angel Two,<br \/>\nI wanted to wait before saying anything to make sure I wasn&#8217;t anxious about anything else, and confusing my emotions, but I wanted to let you know that I left your place with some hurt feelings. (I&#8217;m trying to express them now so I don&#8217;t bottle them up, and that&#8217;s very difficult for me!)<br \/>\nI&#8217;m extremely sensitive when it comes to parenting, and I realize my style is very different from yours and from most older generations. But I&#8217;ve learned with David, having him be so emotional and sensitive, too, that I really have to parent with my gut. And that means giving in to my kids at times.<br \/>\nI know you meant well when you said that I have to take control or else they will turn into monsters as teenagers, but that made me incredibly anxious &#8230; as if it is up to me to make them nice people or monsters when they grow up, and my parenting makes them who they are, which I don&#8217;t believe. I&#8217;ve seen some great parents raise obnoxious kids, and some wonderful kids emerge from extremely dysfunctional homes.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><br \/>\nAnd I guess I was also a little angry with how you treated Katherine, calling her Miss Piggy and stuff when she cried. I should have said something while we were there, but, like I said, I&#8217;ve been feeling so anxious lately that I didn&#8217;t know if it was our exchange or something else that was bothering me. I explained to Katherine that you still love her, but she is quite angry with you. It\u2019s going to be difficult to get her to tag along again.<br \/>\nI know from your perspective it seems as if I&#8217;m ruled by my kids. Maybe that&#8217;s true to some degree. But I&#8217;m just trying to do this parenting thing as best as I can, and my gut tells me that the hard-ass way isn&#8217;t right for them. I hope that you respect my opinions and feelings on that.<br \/>\nYou are still my guardian angel, and I am so grateful for what you have given me. But in order for our friendship to grow, I needed to be honest with you.<br \/>\nMuch love and peace, Therese<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Guardian Angel Two, I wanted to wait before saying anything to make sure I wasn&#8217;t anxious about anything else, and confusing my emotions, but I wanted to let you know that I left your place with some hurt feelings. 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