{"id":337,"date":"2007-07-06T10:11:52","date_gmt":"2007-07-06T10:11:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2007\/07\/no-sex-in-the-city-or-america.html"},"modified":"2007-07-06T10:11:52","modified_gmt":"2007-07-06T10:11:52","slug":"no-sex-in-the-city-or-america","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/07\/no-sex-in-the-city-or-america.html","title":{"rendered":"No Sex in the City (or America)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Four attractive young moms (what SOME men might call “yummy mummies”) are sipping on margaritas at a Mexican bar enjoying Happy Hour.
\n“I\u2019m telling you, I hate it!” one says.
\n“I can tolerate it if I\u2019m not tired,” says another.
\n“I force myself to do it for him,” adds one more.
\n“Not me. I\u2019ve got to want something bad if I’m going to do that.”
\nQuick quiz–Are they talking about:
\n1) Eating raw carrots without ranch dressing,
\n2) Scrubbing down public toilets,
\n3) Chaperoning a camping trip with 30 Girl Scouts,
\n4) Going on a one-week cruise with their in-laws,
\n5) Or having sex with their husbands?
\nAnswer: 5
\nIt seems that I\u2019m not alone in being libido-less after eavesdropping on that conversation. The sex fairy (actually a demon who steals the sex drives of married women) has been quite busy in her quest to neuter this country. A recent survey by Harris International showed that 52 percent of Americans 16 and older (as a mother of a darling girl who loves adventure and pleasure–I won\u2019t elaborate–I\u2019d like to hear that age be, say, 30, or maybe 40) are not fully satisfied with their sex lives.
\nAnd check this out: Americans may be obsessed with sex (spend an hour watching TV), but have way less sex than foreigners. According to Durex (a manufacturer of condoms), the global average was 103 boinks a year, compared to the 85 times a year Americans get horizontal. Greeks have the most sex (a whopping 164 times a year, which is close to every other day–then again, I might be charged up if I woke up to the view of the Mediterranean Sea every morning–followed by the Brazilians (145 times, or every 2.5 days). The only people who get freaky less than Americans are the Japanese, Nigerians, and those persons living in Hong Kong.
\nWashington Post staff writer Laura Sessions Stepp tracks all the surveys in her recent article “How\u2019s You Love Life?” (For the full article click here.)<\/a>
\nAmong the findings:
\n\u2022 Men around the world are more satisfied than women. Women 40 and older are less satisfied across all socioeconomic groups (the sex fairy doesn\u2019t visit men in their sleep).
\n\u2022 The stronger the emotional connection, the better the sex. A University of Chicago professor, Edward Laumann, says that more women reported organisms if their husbands (or male partners) were \u201cconsiderate and affectionate\u201d in daily life, and if helps if both partners try to please each other, both in and out of bed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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