{"id":244,"date":"2007-05-18T12:10:00","date_gmt":"2007-05-18T12:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html"},"modified":"2007-05-18T12:10:00","modified_gmt":"2007-05-18T12:10:00","slug":"self-indulgence-and-depression","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html","title":{"rendered":"Self-Indulgence and Depression"},"content":{"rendered":"

I thought reader Becky made an excellent point with regard to self-indulgence and depression in her comment on the “Unrealistic Expectations: Perfection’s Trophy Wife<\/a>” post:<\/p>\n

I’m having a very hard time seeing what in this post would prompt criticisms of “selfish” or “self-indulgence.” So, I talked to my husband, who does not suffer from his own mental illness, about it. He said that to “outsiders” a lot of what goes on for depressives may seem self-absorbed. Here’s the difference–someone who is truly selfish, self-indulgent, or self-absorbed, wouldn’t be willing to give up their behavior. I know for myself, I’d love it if I didn’t HAVE to spend many hours a week working on my own physical\/mental health. I would much rather be reaching out to others, volunteering, or otherwise participating in communities. But here’s the thing–if I didn’t spend the time on my own health, I wouldn’t be able to give any of myself to others because I would be incapacitated by depression and anxiety. <\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I thought reader Becky made an excellent point with regard to self-indulgence and depression in her comment on the “Unrealistic Expectations: Perfection’s Trophy Wife” post: I’m having a very hard time seeing what in this post would prompt criticisms of “selfish” or “self-indulgence.” So, I talked to my husband, who does not suffer from his…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":15,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-244","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mental-health"],"yoast_head":"\nSelf-Indulgence and Depression - Beyond Blue<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Self-Indulgence and Depression - Beyond Blue\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"I thought reader Becky made an excellent point with regard to self-indulgence and depression in her comment on the “Unrealistic Expectations: Perfection’s Trophy Wife” post: I’m having a very hard time seeing what in this post would prompt criticisms of “selfish” or “self-indulgence.” So, I talked to my husband, who does not suffer from his…\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Beyond Blue\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2007-05-18T12:10:00+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Beyond Blue\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Self-Indulgence and Depression - Beyond Blue","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Self-Indulgence and Depression - Beyond Blue","og_description":"I thought reader Becky made an excellent point with regard to self-indulgence and depression in her comment on the “Unrealistic Expectations: Perfection’s Trophy Wife” post: I’m having a very hard time seeing what in this post would prompt criticisms of “selfish” or “self-indulgence.” So, I talked to my husband, who does not suffer from his…","og_url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html","og_site_name":"Beyond Blue","article_published_time":"2007-05-18T12:10:00+00:00","author":"Beyond Blue","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html","name":"Self-Indulgence and Depression - Beyond Blue","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/#website"},"datePublished":"2007-05-18T12:10:00+00:00","dateModified":"2007-05-18T12:10:00+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/#\/schema\/person\/9a07cb215ebbbdc185d2b2a55131e7a2"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/05\/self-indulgence-and-depression.html#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Self-Indulgence and Depression"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/","name":"Beyond Blue","description":"Beliefnet Voices - Therese J. 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