{"id":2407,"date":"2011-04-14T09:29:47","date_gmt":"2011-04-14T09:29:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2011\/04\/therapy-thursdays-be-sincere-b.html"},"modified":"2011-04-14T10:03:49","modified_gmt":"2011-04-14T14:03:49","slug":"therapy-thursdays-be-sincere-b","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2011\/04\/therapy-thursdays-be-sincere-b.html","title":{"rendered":"Therapy Thursdays: Be Sincere, Be Select"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"mt-image-left\" style=\"float: left;margin: 0 20px 20px 0\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/71\/import\/imgs\/pocket%20therapist%20front%20cover%20small.jpg\" alt=\"pocket therapist front cover small.jpg\" width=\"180\" height=\"258\" \/><\/span><em>I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. Many of them are published in my book, &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Pocket-Therapist-Emotional-Survival-Kit\/dp\/1599952998\">The Pocket Therapist: An Emotional Survival Kit.<\/a>&#8221; <\/em><\/p>\n<p>I used to collect friends like baseball cars.<\/p>\n<p>Visit my Facebook page, and you&#8217;ll see what I mean. I thought that I would look popular and successful if I had over 600 friends, so I went click crazy and befriended friends of friends just for the hell of it. Until I realized I could no longer access the news and statuses of the people I really cared about because it would take too long to sort through details&#8211;Joe popped a zit on his way to work today!&#8211;of the pimple poppers I don&#8217;t know from Adam. Short of closing my account, and building a new profile, I have no way of getting back to my core peeps.<\/p>\n<p>This is metaphoric, of course, and made me go back and read Anne Morrow Lindbergh&#8217;s words on friendship in her classic, Gift from the Sea:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>I shall ask into my shell only those friends with whom I can be completely honest. I find I am shedding hypocrisy in human relationships. What a rest that will be! The most exhausting thing in life, I have discovered, is being insincere.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere. As a stage-four people-pleaser, I know that it&#8217;s the source of much of my fatigue. Each day, I try to chip away at the artificial layers protecting my heart. I&#8217;m certainly not there yet, but I have begun the journey.<br \/>\nOutside of Facebook, that is.<\/p>\n<p><em>*\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/feedburner.google.com\/fb\/a\/mailverify?uri=beyondblue1\">Click here to <strong>subscribe to Beyond Blue<\/strong><\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/thereseborchard\">click here to follow Therese on <strong>Twitter<\/strong><\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/community.beliefnet.com\/beyond_blue\">click here to join <strong>Group Beyond Blue<\/strong><\/a>, a depression support group. Now stop clicking.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. 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