{"id":2399,"date":"2011-02-17T08:30:58","date_gmt":"2011-02-17T08:30:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2011\/02\/therapy-thursday-dont-go-to-a.html"},"modified":"2011-02-17T08:30:58","modified_gmt":"2011-02-17T08:30:58","slug":"therapy-thursday-dont-go-to-a","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2011\/02\/therapy-thursday-dont-go-to-a.html","title":{"rendered":"Therapy Thursday: Don&#8217;t Go to a Hardware Store for Tomatoes"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"pocket therapist front cover small.jpg\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/71\/import\/imgs\/pocket%20therapist%20front%20cover%20small.jpg\" width=\"180\" height=\"258\" class=\"mt-image-left\" style=\"float: left;margin: 0 20px 20px 0\" \/><\/span><em>I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. Many of them are published in my book, &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Pocket-Therapist-Emotional-Survival-Kit\/dp\/1599952998\">The Pocket Therapist: An Emotional Survival Kit.<\/a>&#8221; <\/em><br \/>\nI don&#8217;t think I&#8217;ve ever left a bakery infuriated that they didn&#8217;t have any hamburger meat, or left a butcher shop disappointed they didn&#8217;t stock any cucumbers.<br \/>\nBut I have done exactly that in so many of my relationships.<br \/>\nI invested my heart over and over again into a friendship that couldn&#8217;t nurture me in the way I needed. I was determined to find unconditional love with a relative who was more interested in his golf game than in my report cards. Continually, I&#8217;d walk to the well, hoping that I might draw a few spoonfuls of water, only to retract a parched bucket.<br \/>\n&#8220;Love me, please, just love me,&#8221; I&#8217;d beg the person who was incapable of loving me back.<br \/>\nNow I&#8217;m getting smarter. For a confidence boost I don&#8217;t write to a gal who delights in belittling me. To feel safe and loved, I don&#8217;t call up my former boss who hated me or the ex-boyfriend who fancied my friends more than me.<br \/>\nI try my best to go to the bakery for bread.<\/p>\n<p><i>*&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/feedburner.google.com\/fb\/a\/mailverify?uri=beyondblue1\">Click here to <b>subscribe to Beyond Blue<\/b><\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/thereseborchard\">click here to follow Therese on <b>Twitter<\/b><\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/community.beliefnet.com\/beyond_blue\">click here to join <b>Group Beyond Blue<\/b><\/a>, a depression support group. 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