{"id":179,"date":"2007-04-10T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2007-04-10T11:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2007\/04\/addiction-breaking-aphorisms.html"},"modified":"2007-04-10T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2007-04-10T11:00:00","slug":"addiction-breaking-aphorisms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2007\/04\/addiction-breaking-aphorisms.html","title":{"rendered":"Addiction-Breaking Aphorisms"},"content":{"rendered":"

Here are some addiction-breaking aphorisms that Halpern lists in his book, “How to Break Your Addiction to a Person<\/a>.” They are helpful for me not only in ending dysfunctional friendships, but in trying to stop any kind of destructive habit–like devouring the four chocolates I just did before typing this.<\/p>\n

1. You can live without him\/her (probably better).<\/p>\n

2. A love (or any healthy) relationship is mutual and helps each partner feel better about himself, not worse.<\/p>\n

3. Guilt is not reason enough to stay.<\/p>\n

4. You don’t have to love someone to be addicted to him.<\/p>\n

5. What you see is what you get, so stop hanging on to the belief that you can change the other person.<\/p>\n

6. Just because you’re jealous doesn’t mean you love him; you can be jealous of someone you can’t stand.<\/p>\n

7. You can’t always work it out, no matter how much you may want to.<\/p>\n

8. Some people die of bad relationships. Do you want to be one of them?<\/p>\n

9. The pain of ending it won’t last forever. In fact, it won’t last nearly as long as the pain of not ending it.<\/p>\n

10. If it will be the same way five or ten years from now, do you want it?<\/p>\n

11. There will be anxiety, loneliness, depression when you end it, but these feelings will last for only a limited amount of time and then will stop.<\/p>\n

12. You won’t be alone forever; that’s thinking in Infant Time.<\/p>\n

13. It’s never too late to make a change; the longer you wait, the more time wasted.<\/p>\n

14. The intensity of your withdrawal symptoms does not indicate the strength of your love but the strength of your addiction.<\/p>\n

15. You are a whole and valuable person apart from that relationship.<\/p>\n

16. When you feel inadequate, incomplete, or worthless apart from him\/her, childhood feelings are taking over.<\/p>\n

17. He\/she is not the “one and only.”<\/p>\n

18. If you end this bad relationship, you will be opening your life to new possibilities.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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