{"id":1593,"date":"2011-01-26T05:45:43","date_gmt":"2011-01-26T05:45:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2011\/01\/elvira-aletta-ill-cry-if-i-wan.html"},"modified":"2011-01-26T05:45:43","modified_gmt":"2011-01-26T05:45:43","slug":"elvira-aletta-ill-cry-if-i-wan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2011\/01\/elvira-aletta-ill-cry-if-i-wan.html","title":{"rendered":"Elvira Aletta: I’ll Cry If I Want To"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I loved the post by Dr. Eliva G. Aletta on PsychCentral.com about crying.<\/a> I find it comforting to hear a shrink say that she cries too. (I thought they were immune?) Elvira gives us some history on her philosophy on weeping …<\/p>\n

Flashback to sixteen years old when I was desparately trying to get my Dad to understand why I was so angry with him. Today I can’t tell you what I was upset about. What sticks with me is the ‘Aha’ moment when my Dad told me to Stop Crying. Totally frustrated I said, “I cry, that’s what I do. Please just listen to what I’m saying.” And miracle of miracles, he did. \n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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What I learned from this episode:<\/p>\n

* I was done apologizing for my tears. Growing up I was constantly told crying was a weakness and to cut it out. Well, to hell with that.<\/p>\n

* Crying has its cathartic quality but sometimes it can also be more of a reflex of the fight or flight variety, like shortness of breath or an increased heart rate.<\/p>\n

* Some of us have a low tearfulness threshold and those who don’t have to put up with us and love us anyway.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

To continue reading her post, click here.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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