{"id":1541,"date":"2010-08-13T06:45:23","date_gmt":"2010-08-13T06:45:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2010\/08\/9-ways-to-affair-proof-your-ma.html"},"modified":"2010-08-13T06:45:23","modified_gmt":"2010-08-13T06:45:23","slug":"9-ways-to-affair-proof-your-ma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2010\/08\/9-ways-to-affair-proof-your-ma.html","title":{"rendered":"9 Ways to Affair-Proof Your Marriage (the Gallery)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"affairproof.jpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/71\/import\/imgs\/affairproof.jpeg\" width=\"220\" height=\"165\" class=\"mt-image-left\" style=\"float: left;margin: 0 20px 20px 0\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p>According to Peggy Vaughan, the author of &#8220;The Monogamy Myth,&#8221; 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in their marriage. In other words, the person who stays monogamous within her marriage is among a growing minority.<\/p>\n<p>Twelve years into my marriage, I can appreciate that statistic. Eric and I are getting to the hard part, where the pressing responsibilities of raising kids and growing two careers could easily blow apart the vows we recited on our wedding day.<\/p>\n<p>Because I want my marriage to stay on the happy side of the statistics, I&#8217;ve gathered these tips for how to make marriage absolutely affair-proof.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/Love-Family\/2008\/09\/9-Ways-to-Affair-Proof-Your-Marriage.aspx?p=2\">Click here for the first tip.<\/a><\/p>\n<p><i>*&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/feedburner.google.com\/fb\/a\/mailverify?uri=beyondblue1\">Click here to <b>subscribe to Beyond Blue<\/b><\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/thereseborchard\">click here to follow Therese on <b>Twitter<\/b><\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/community.beliefnet.com\/beyond_blue\">click here to join <b>Group Beyond Blue<\/b><\/a>, a depression support group. 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