{"id":1283,"date":"2008-07-22T05:45:23","date_gmt":"2008-07-22T05:45:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2008\/07\/group-beyond-blue-problem-solv.html"},"modified":"2008-07-22T05:45:23","modified_gmt":"2008-07-22T05:45:23","slug":"group-beyond-blue-problem-solv","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2008\/07\/group-beyond-blue-problem-solv.html","title":{"rendered":"Group Beyond Blue: Problem Solving"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I started a discussion thread at Group Beyond Blue at Beliefnet Community<\/a> where we can tackle one of our problems and come up with creative solutions. Here is my post:<\/p>\n

As you’ll see in Thursday’s post, I’m trying to transform my panic and sadness into concrete steps of action, so I don’t feel so overwhelmed. I’ve been using worksheets that I explain tomorrow, that you can download from www.lifespanpress.com. They are targeted toward identifying problems in kids, and logging the behavior. But I have found them helpful for myself as well.<\/p>\n

For example:<\/p>\n

Problem\/Behavior:<\/strong> I cried yesterday after I picked up David from camp and learned he was disrespectful to the camp counselors. I immediately internalized it and told myself I must be a terrible mom.<\/p>\n

Setting Event (what contributes long term to the problem)<\/strong>: I am very fragile, and because of my bipolar disorder and anxiety problems, get frazzled very easily. I presently have too much going on, and am not getting enough mental-health breaks. Also, being raised in an alcoholic family, I didn’t learn skills to assert myself that are needed as a parent (to be consistent and firm as a disciplinarian). I tend to take messages like these and blow them out of proportion, thinking that he will become a drug dealer in two years. Also, I do think the two years of my crying impacted the kids in a negative way–and disciplining them now will be even more difficult in light in those years. <\/p>\n

Antecedent (what came right before I started crying)<\/strong>: I went home to check my e-mail and while I was there, Katherine was acting up for the sitter. So I was already feeling deflated.<\/p>\n

Consequence:<\/strong> I told the sitter to give Katherine a time-out if she continued her behavior, and I took away all TV and video games from David until I get a good report from camp. I logged in their behavior and my discipline strategy to try to keep it consistent, and so that I have data to show a specialist when I pursue that. I also made sure that I had one hour the next day for quiet, mental-health time for me. <\/p>\n

List one of your problems and try to come up with some specific solutions. Does it make you feel better?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

To read more Beyond Blue, go to www.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue<\/a>, and to get to Group Beyond Blue, a support group at Beliefnet Community, click here.<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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