{"id":1011,"date":"2008-03-06T09:49:32","date_gmt":"2008-03-06T09:49:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2008\/03\/thursdays-with-ben-what-would.html"},"modified":"2008-03-06T09:49:32","modified_gmt":"2008-03-06T09:49:32","slug":"thursdays-with-ben-what-would","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beyondblue\/2008\/03\/thursdays-with-ben-what-would.html","title":{"rendered":"Thursdays with Ben: What Would You Change?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"0106_moore.jpg\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/71\/import\/0106_moore.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"369\" \/><br \/>\nI\u2019ve had death a lot on my mind not because I\u2019m suicidal (yeah!) but because, <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beyondblue\/2008\/01\/video-what-i-learned-from-ben.html\">as I said a few weeks ago, my running partner passed away.<\/a> Today was his memorial service. I am so inspired by Ben\u2014by his enthusiasm for running and good health, his loyalty and integrity, and his sense of humor. He didn\u2019t let anything get him down. I envy that about him.<br \/>\nAnyway, motivated by his legacy, I decided to list ten things I would change if I knew I were dying (um, naturally of course). Here they are.<br \/>\n1. I would stress less about the small stuff.<br \/>\n2. I would categorize everything as small stuff.<br \/>\n3. I would worry less about people\u2019s approval.<br \/>\n4. I would make more time for coffee and phone calls with friends.<br \/>\n5. I would visit my mom and my sisters more.<br \/>\n6. I would eat more dessert and not care as much about the widening waist line.<br \/>\n7. I would laugh more.<br \/>\n8. I would publish my journal online&#8211;every thought I have, no matter how stupid or insane. Oh wait, I already do that.<br \/>\n9. I would spend more time outdoors.<br \/>\n10. I would eat breakfast with my kids, lunch with Eric, and dinner with my family.<br \/>\nWould ten things would you change?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve had death a lot on my mind not because I\u2019m suicidal (yeah!) but because, as I said a few weeks ago, my running partner passed away. Today was his memorial service. I am so inspired by Ben\u2014by his enthusiasm for running and good health, his loyalty and integrity, and his sense of humor. 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