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\"\"<\/a>Once again I am wishing I believed in an afterlife where I would reconnect with people who leave me too soon. Leave irredeemably. Permanently. That hard word forever<\/em>. But I don’t.<\/p>\n

Once again I wish I had had more time. More jokes. More stories shared. More of her. But I didn’t.<\/p>\n

And once again, I am breathing. Breathing in for her husband, who was there with her to the end. Breathing out for her sister, who is the only one of 3 sisters left, now. Breathing in for her many friends, each of whom has lost someone rare & precious. Breathing one breath at a time, wishing words could save me.<\/p>\n

Death is the ultimate rejection, I remember hearing once. I never see it like that. Too many moves as a child leave me looking, still, to see if I might bump into a familiar face. If someone is really just gone for a bit. Just around the corner, up ahead.Some fragment of my childhood clings to me still, and the sense of maybe<\/em>? still hangs around.<\/p>\n

But she isn’t coming back, the adult in me knows. And she had a very short, hard final year. I should be happy she isn’t suffering. Only a bit more than a year ago — not two — she was fine. Just a rasp in her voice. But as of last night? The voice that was stilled far too early by ALS<\/a> is gone completely now. And I’m sitting here. Breathing. Remembering, once again, that grief has no logic…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Once again I am wishing I believed in an afterlife where I would reconnect with people who leave me too soon. Leave irredeemably. Permanently. That hard word forever. But I don’t. Once again I wish I had had more time. More jokes. More stories shared. More of her. But I didn’t. 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