{"id":1451,"date":"2011-08-31T21:08:12","date_gmt":"2011-09-01T01:08:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/beginnersheart\/?p=1451"},"modified":"2011-08-31T21:08:12","modified_gmt":"2011-09-01T01:08:12","slug":"love-and-war-and-faithful-friends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beginnersheart\/2011\/08\/love-and-war-and-faithful-friends.html","title":{"rendered":"love and war and faithful friends ~"},"content":{"rendered":"

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War, my father once told me, never changes. It’s the same for every generation of men (and now women) who fight it for those of us who remain here, waiting.<\/p>\n

He told me this when he was about my husband’s age now. He told me that the men at the VFW — the veterans of my husband’s war, Vietnam — saw Daddy only as an old man, w\/ his big belly and his receding, greying hair. They didn’t see the Silver Star, the Bronze Star, the multiple Purple Hearts or all they cost him.<\/p>\n

My father was lucky. He came home with only a big divot out of one leg, bad memories, and a fistful of medals for valour. My husband also came home with no limbs missing, no horrific external injuries. But neither man was ever the same. This my father knew.<\/p>\n

I don’t know what to say to the several Oklahoma families who lost sons this past month. Only how very sorry I am. How much I hate war, and wish that there would never be another one. So instead, as we near the anniversary of the ostensible reason for these most recent wars, I offer this image<\/a>, honouring both a lost soldier and his most faithful mourner. Sometimes grief is as pure and searing as flame. This image reminds me of those griefs ~<\/p>\n

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