{"id":11036,"date":"2015-11-20T18:01:54","date_gmt":"2015-11-20T23:01:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beginnersheart\/?p=11036"},"modified":"2015-11-20T18:01:54","modified_gmt":"2015-11-20T23:01:54","slug":"of-outsiders-refugees-and-the-sound-of-hearts-breaking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/beginnersheart\/2015\/11\/of-outsiders-refugees-and-the-sound-of-hearts-breaking.html","title":{"rendered":"of outsiders, refugees, and the sound of hearts, breaking"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Perhaps it’s because I lived so many years in places where I was the ‘outsider.’ Perhaps it’s because 10 of those years were spent in Muslim countries. Perhaps it’s because I’ve traveled. A lot. As have my children, my husband, many of my friends & family. I have soooo many friends who are ‘other’: Muslim, Hindu, Bah\u00e1’\u00ed, Wiccan, agnostic, atheist. Not to mention ‘of colour’ — certainly an ‘other’ in today’s legal system. Or gay, another ‘other’ category, these days.<\/p>\n

I’m sure it’s partly because I’ve devoted my professional career to inclusion, to colouring outside the mainstream lines (white, WASP, mostly male). Although we could try & track down the roots of these interests, as well.<\/p>\n

Whatever it is, I’m at odds w\/ much of my extended family on the Syrian refugee crisis. Despite the fact that my entire maternal line is devoutly Christian, all are summarily against extending sanctuary to ANY Syrian refugee. Now, I will add that many in my extended family\u00a0also believe Ben Carson to be a viable candidate for president (need I mention that his anti-intelligence stance, as well as his total unfamiliarity w\/ policy or geography or much else other than the human brain, appalls me?). And they accept the right-wing stance that we currently don’t vet immigrants thoroughly, particularly not refugees. When in fact, the process by which we check-out refugees is strenuous, taking up to two years<\/a>. Various security checks are made, an in-person interview is held, medical clearance must be given, and there must be sponsoring organisations that maintain contact w\/ each refugee.\"compassion<\/a><\/p>\n

In other words, the idea that refugees are just ‘let in’ is a product of sound bites by ambitious politicos, not fact.<\/p>\n

But my family (and some colleagues, even a few friends) continue to circulate various ‘articles’ (mostly op-eds, like this one, but with far fewer sources!) warning of the dire consequences if we show compassion to these displaced families.<\/p>\n

Did I mention families? Because the situation is made so much more dire — so much more heart-rending, at least for me — by the pictures of the small Syrian children waiting to find a place they will finally be safe.<\/p>\n

To be fair, the accusations of racism on the part of liberals\u00a0(when fear is far more likely) inflame an already igneous situation. If you don’t know any Muslims, or only one or two, you are far more apt to believe the histrionics of local politicians. Especially the politicians\u00a0in Oklahoma: our governor has already said she will not take any refugees (how she can constitutionally avoid this, I’m uncertain, but civics isn’t a strong part of OK leadership). Tulsa’s mayor is also ‘deeply concerned’ about the ‘safety’ of ‘his’ citizens.<\/p>\n

While I’m concerned for the children who have drowned trying to get to safety. The parents who have died trying to get those children to safe haven.<\/p>\n

Thus, I was accused of caring more for (Muslim) strangers than for my fellow Americans. Which isn’t true. Nor is it true that the current comparison — of the refugees (mostly middle-class families in their previous lives) to \u00a0homeless panhandlers and \u00a0questionably murderous hitchhikers — is in any way accurate.<\/p>\n

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This child was holding her hands up as a photographer pointed a camera at her. She thought it was a gun. I’m sure you can see that she’s very dangerous — dangerously heart-breaking. And yet I know very good people — people who believe firmly in Jesus & his teachings\u00a0suffer the little children\u00a0<\/em>— who are terrified of her, her family. Anyone in the camp where she is now.<\/p>\n

Such people would have us believe that this little girl (& her family) are mentally unbalanced — like the alleged hitchhiker no ‘sane’ person would pick up. But here’s the deal: there is NO comparison by anyone who goes farther than those sound bites. EACH of the refugees accepted by the US (a paltry 10,000) will be thoroughly, professionally investigated. I don’t get that assurance with a hitchhiker. If I did? I’d probably pick one up. I used to, back in the days of my youthful innocence. It was a way to help.<\/p>\n

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Now? I’m being told that these 10,000 refugees will pull funds from veterans and the homeless, who suddenly become of interest to people who formerly refused to fund the one & criminalised the latter. It’s so overtly hypocritical I can’t stand it.<\/p>\n

One of my immediate family (who luckily share my outrage at the conservative treatment of an entire group of people already rendered helpless by circumstance) has sworn off FB entirely, for the duration. She said she’s beginning to actively dislike ‘friends.’ People who should know better find the pronouncements by presidential contenders that Muslims should wear signs (yellow crescent moons on their shoulders??), and be on a special registry (shades of the Nuremberg Laws) acceptable. They find comfort — not disgust — in the way the US government handled its Japanese citizens during WWII.<\/p>\n

I am angrier than I can say. I am disgusted w\/ the majority of my country, who believe these homeless families are more frightening than disavowing all America stands for. What do the words on the Statue of Liberty mean if we turn away children? What is this country of the ‘free’ if fear is our governing emotion?\"compassion\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Worse yet? All I have read & studied of extremist Islam says we are playing directly into the hands of the various terrorist groups by uniting against all Muslims. Just as my conservative friends would not appreciate being lumped in w\/ radical leftist Americans, so moderate Muslims are not happy with being tarred by an extremist label. My friends at work, my friends in Saudi Arabia, & Algeria, and Dubai… Not ONE of them supports what happened in Paris. But according to my fellow Americans? There is no difference between my friend Susan, a Muslim American mother of 3, married to a wonderful Jordanian, and the mastermind of the Paris tragedy.<\/p>\n

Here is what I wonder: at what point did America become a country of fear? Was it after 9\/11? If so… The terrorists have won, America. They have won if we turn our back on all I grew up believing in. All that my father, husband, sisters, nephew & friends fought to protect. And my heart is completely shattered. This isn’t about 10,000 refugees, America. It’s about us.<\/p>\n

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