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For those d’un certain \u00e2ge<\/em>, the Rolling Stones said it best:\u00a0You can’t always get what you want\/But if you try sometimes you just might find\/You get what you need<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

In other words? The whole silver lining thingie.<\/p>\n

Because the problem (of course there’s a problem!) is that we don’t always see a\u00a0silver lining. Maybe it’s the light or something, but I KNOW I rarely\u00a0think: Oh! Just because C or D or X or Y fell through, doesn’t mean I\u00a0should be disappointed. I’ll get what I need, instead!<\/i> Right…<\/p>\n

Instead, I’m thinking:\u00a0WHAT!\u00a0<\/em>And not happy. Nope. Not thinking the whole ‘get what you need’ thing. Whining because something didn’t work out, fell through, etc. Disappointed in the universe, in other words.<\/p>\n

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Take the house we should be moving to even as I type… Deal fell through. So did the deal for possible house #2. And the deal for possible lot. And then everything just kind of went haywire. Or snafu, as my military dad would have said. Punchline? It will be probably a year before we move… IF we can find a house.<\/p>\n

Now here is (one) silver lining\u00a0I’m trying (hard!) to focus on: I’m back on the board of my state humanities council! Whoohoo! As someone who often says that\u00a0the humanities are the best of studies (here<\/a>, here<\/a>, and here<\/a>, for instance), this is great news! I\u00a0reeeaaallly\u00a0<\/em>hated having to give that up. The nicest of people, and such an important cause.<\/p>\n

There are other glimpses of silver\u00a0as well. One is that I was able to apply for a job I may even get! Seriously — it’s a job I”d love, and I have the perfect background for it. Does NOT mean I’ll get it, though. As we all know — the universe quite often has very different plans than the ones we make.<\/p>\n

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But … at least today I’m aware that losing the house I wanted so much, the lot I was so excited about building on, aren’t the worst losses possible. And that there may even be benefits — my beloved & I can brainstorm a house better. We may pay less. If I can work a while, we’ll have more $$. So: if I can just keep my perspective, I don’t feel loss. I feel … possibility. The silvery gleam of possibility. That’s sooo much more fun than whining about what didn’t happen!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

For those d’un certain \u00e2ge, the Rolling Stones said it best:\u00a0You can’t always get what you want\/But if you try sometimes you just might find\/You get what you need. In other words? The whole silver lining thingie. Because the problem (of course there’s a problem!) is that we don’t always see a\u00a0silver lining. 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