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Years have names, although we usually don’t think of them\u00a0that way. And this will be the year of my beloved’s ill health.<\/p>\n

Something there is in us that feels helpless when the people we love are hurting. And double pneumonia is pretty painful. Sitting here in the hospital, I am grateful fo quiet breathing, for lack of pain. It brings home what Buddhis teaches: it’s all about the breath…<\/p>\n

Hence my absence from the blog for a few days. Lots of time to think, but not much for writing. Watching a loved one suffer is – at least for me – a perfect exercise in beginnver’s heart. This year of two knee operations, a shattered ankle, and now double pneumonia has demonstrated over & over that tonglen<\/em><\/a> -the breathing to lessen the pain of others – is often all we can do. And it’s not only HARD, it feels like so very little.<\/p>\n

These are true milestones: they mark the curves, the thoroughfares, of our lives. Both the lives of those in physical pain, and those of us who watch. I can’t mend ankles, or heal lungs. I can only breathe, mindfully. With love. And hope. That small ember that lights darkness as we drive. Passing milestones. Breathing…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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