{"id":142,"date":"2014-03-13T19:39:28","date_gmt":"2014-03-13T19:39:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becominggreat\/?p=142"},"modified":"2014-03-13T19:44:51","modified_gmt":"2014-03-13T19:44:51","slug":"making-peace-with-your-past","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becominggreat\/2014\/03\/making-peace-with-your-past.html","title":{"rendered":"Making Peace With Our Past"},"content":{"rendered":"

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For many of us, the biggest struggle in our life is summed up in this: lamenting over the life we wished happened versus the life that can possibly be.\u00a0 Too often, we find ourselves stuck living in the past and really missing out on what is happening right now and the limitless future ahead of us.<\/p>\n

How do we remedy this? It’s simple make peace with the past.\u00a0 Now this is not easy as it sounds, but it will be the thing that will take you from common to great.<\/p>\n

Here are the steps:<\/p>\n

!. Acknowledge<\/strong>.\u00a0 It’s important to acknowledge what has happened in our past.\u00a0 We should make sure we cover everything that has hurt us and write it down.\u00a0 Moreover, acknowledge how it’s made us feel.<\/p>\n

2. Grieve<\/strong>.\u00a0 This is a stage where we cry and process our emotions and the events that have caused us harm. It’s great to have a support system who can be your emotional support during this stage. A grief journal will be handy during this phase.<\/p>\n

3. Prayer<\/strong>. Its important to stay in fellowship with God during this time. He ultimately will be the strength you’ll need to endure\u00a0 the process.<\/p>\n

4. Mapping<\/strong>. I love mapping.\u00a0 Create a map of your life starting with where you are currently and begin to draw the future you desire to have<\/p>\n

5. Accountability<\/strong>. Growth groups and supportive family and friend are a requirement for your success in life. Moreover, true accountability prevents you from romanticizing your past. (Something most people do). They should check in with you to make sure you are on course to greatness on a bi-weekly basis.<\/p>\n

6. Self Encourage<\/strong>. At the end of all this, you’ll find you.\u00a0 You have to be your biggest supporter and cheerleader when others are not available. Start encouraging yourself today by telling yourself great things and what your future holds. DECLARE and DECREE it.<\/p>\n

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole….BE GREAT!!<\/p>\n

Until Next Time,<\/p>\n

Pervis<\/p>\n

Pervis Taylor, III is an Author, Life Coach, Speaker and Contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volume 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: www.pervistaylor.com\/author<\/a><\/em>. He is the creator of the inspiration app, I-Inspire available for IPhones, Ipad and Ipod Touch via: http:\/\/pervistaylor.com\/i-inspire\/<\/a>. He resides in New York City. Follow him on twitter @pervistaylor or facebook <\/em>www.facebook.com\/pervistaylor3<\/em><\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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