{"id":86,"date":"2013-12-06T02:13:56","date_gmt":"2013-12-06T02:13:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/?p=86"},"modified":"2013-12-06T02:13:56","modified_gmt":"2013-12-06T02:13:56","slug":"would-changing-this-really-make-your-life-better","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2013\/12\/would-changing-this-really-make-your-life-better.html","title":{"rendered":"Would Changing This Really Make Your Life Better?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Here&#8217;s something I&#8217;ve done in the past many times that you&#8217;ve\u00a0most likely done as well&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And be honest about it.<\/p>\n<p>How many times have you thought that your life in some way would be better if you could have changed something, even\u00a0just one thing, from your past?<\/p>\n<p>This could range from the &#8220;smallest&#8221; and most innocent of\u00a0things to much &#8220;bigger&#8221; and life impacting moments.<\/p>\n<p>The question to think about here is, &#8220;Are all the events in\u00a0your life, past and present, really small and innocent or\u00a0do they equally matter in the grand scheme of things?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Put another way&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Does every person, situation, idea, and event in your life\u00a0contribute equally in some way to how your life currently\u00a0is and how your life can be?<\/p>\n<p>I say, &#8220;yes&#8221; and along with that it is very wise to not come from a place of wanting to change anything from your past\u00a0thinking that you&#8217;d be better off.<\/p>\n<p>Even if you could go back in time and change something, you\u00a0wouldn&#8217;t want to.<\/p>\n<p>Many people will wonder why and the reason is simple&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Because you don&#8217;t know what the ripple effect would be if\u00a0you changed even that &#8220;one&#8221; simple event.<\/p>\n<p>It is very easy at first to think your life would be or have\u00a0been better off if you could change something from your past.<\/p>\n<p>But what most people are not aware of is that ripple effect\u00a0I mentioned earlier, which can actually lead to even more things you&#8217;d want to change, that may not have occurred in\u00a0the first place.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, you may have been able to change that &#8220;one thing&#8221; in your\u00a0past (if you were able to go back in time) but it would trigger\u00a0off events in other areas of your life that you wouldn&#8217;t\u00a0want to have happen.<\/p>\n<p>Since none of us can physically go back in time, we can\u00a0perceptually go back in time with our thoughts and memories.<\/p>\n<p>When doing so it is wise to be thankful and grateful for those\u00a0events which have occurred and to see &#8220;both sides&#8221; of the picture, along with how each served and dis-served you.<\/p>\n<p>This will allow you to be more grateful for what is instead\u00a0of wanting to change yourself and possibly others thinking\u00a0that you or they would be better off in some way.<\/p>\n<p>Life is not meant to be lived in regret and resentment, it is\u00a0meant to be lived in gratitude and appreciation of what has\u00a0taken place&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And one of the ways you do this is to be aware of both the positive and negative sides of people, events, and situations\u00a0which have occurred.<\/p>\n<p>By knowing this you don&#8217;t become a victim of your history,\u00a0you shine and become a master of your destiny.<\/p>\n<p>And a major part of being a master of your destiny is knowing how remarkable of a person you are.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s knowing that you have a tremendous amount of value to\u00a0contribute to the world with your uniqueness.<\/p>\n<p>And it&#8217;s also realizing that you are a beautiful soul who\u00a0has it all.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Here&#8217;s something I&#8217;ve done in the past many times that you&#8217;ve\u00a0most likely done as well&#8230; And be honest about it. 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