{"id":799,"date":"2019-01-06T20:30:17","date_gmt":"2019-01-06T20:30:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/?p=799"},"modified":"2019-01-06T20:30:17","modified_gmt":"2019-01-06T20:30:17","slug":"who-believes-in-you-the-most-4","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2019\/01\/who-believes-in-you-the-most-4.html","title":{"rendered":"Who Believes In You The Most?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Do you remember this happening in school while growing up?<\/p>\n<p>It may have been in the classroom&#8230;the school yard&#8230;on the school bus&#8230;while walking home.<\/p>\n<p>In fact&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>It was also likely to occur at home.<\/p>\n<p>And it has to do with that one kid&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You know, the kid that others would make fun of&#8230;laugh at&#8230;and in some cases &#8220;beat up.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>But wait&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s one more thing&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>The kid that no one believed in at all.<\/p>\n<p>Whether it was the other kids&#8230;teachers&#8230;the gym coach&#8230;and even family members at home&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>There was always that kid who others thought would never &#8220;make it&#8221;&#8230;would end up not going anywhere in life&#8230;or never amount to anything.<\/p>\n<p>Interestingly&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>This same kid&#8230;strange as it sounds&#8230;always had at least one person who did believe in them.<\/p>\n<p>Think about this&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>If this was you how did things turn out?<\/p>\n<p>And even if you weren&#8217;t that kid back then&#8230;what about now?<\/p>\n<p>Because even adults like you and I come across this as well.<\/p>\n<p>With that in mind the question is&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Who believes in you the most?<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Missing in action<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>What happens the moment you discover that someone doesn&#8217;t believe in you? Whether it&#8217;s a comment you hear, patterns in how people act towards you, or just a strong sense you have&#8230;what&#8217;s going through your mind?<\/p>\n<p>How about this&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Does the thought of doing something about it pop into your mind?<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s face it&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>There isn&#8217;t a person on the face of the earth who didn&#8217;t have someone&#8230;at some point in time believe in them.<\/p>\n<p>The question is&#8230;what did you do about it? What action did you take to &#8220;show everyone&#8221; that you belong&#8230;that you want to be recognized in some way?<\/p>\n<p>Along with that, one thing is certainly obvious&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Every person who ended up succeeding&#8230;that had people who didn&#8217;t believe in them did one of two things&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>They either &#8220;showed them&#8221; in the area of life that no one believed in them.<\/p>\n<p>Or&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>They got good at a different area and &#8220;showed them&#8221; that way.<\/p>\n<p>However&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>In either case&#8230;while people were still doubting them&#8230;they were quietly doing something about it.<\/p>\n<p>I call it being &#8220;missing in action&#8221;..<br \/>\n.<br \/>\nBecause the action they were taking &#8220;behind closed doors&#8221; wasn&#8217;t seen. And then all of a sudden you see this person &#8220;appearing out of nowhere&#8221;&#8230;right?<\/p>\n<p>How many times have you seen this with someone?<\/p>\n<p>And then everyone says, &#8220;I can&#8217;t believe how he\/she got so good because when we were kids growing up he\/she was quiet&#8230;shy&#8230;and didn&#8217;t seem like the type.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Sound familiar&#8230;right?<\/p>\n<p>What&#8217;s also familiar in each of these situations is that this person&#8230;the one nobody believed in&#8230;unknown to just about everyone&#8230;had that one person who did believe in them and was always on their side.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Inches, yards, and miles<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s been said that &#8220;by the inch it&#8217;s a cinch&#8221; and &#8220;by the mile it&#8217;s a pile.&#8221; What does this mean&#8230;and what does it have to do with people believing in you?<\/p>\n<p>The person no one believed in&#8230;that started quietly going about their business &#8220;behind closed doors&#8221;&#8230;taking little action steps while nobody was paying attention&#8230;they know what this means.<\/p>\n<p>Because they approached it using the mindset of &#8220;by the inch it&#8217;s a cinch&#8221;&#8230;meaning that they were &#8220;chunking things down&#8221; and taking &#8220;baby steps.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And they were methodically doing this&#8230;chipping away&#8230;even though people still didn&#8217;t believe in them.<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s take a look at you.<\/p>\n<p>When faced with people not believing in you&#8230;what is that you&#8217;re taking &#8220;quiet action&#8221; on that you can &#8220;chip away&#8221; at?<\/p>\n<p>What is it that you love doing&#8230;that you can do all day and still feel alive and inspired?<\/p>\n<p>Because when you&#8217;re doing whatever that is&#8230;what others say about you will just &#8220;roll of your back&#8221;&#8230;it won&#8217;t bother you even when they don&#8217;t believe in you.<\/p>\n<p>In fact&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>This will inspire you and is likely to be something you&#8217;ll thrive on.<\/p>\n<p>And it goes back to what you hear me say frequently&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>No matter what you do you&#8217;ll have people supporting and challenging you&#8230;praising and criticizing you&#8230;liking and disliking you&#8230;believing and disbelieving in you.<\/p>\n<p>And the second you &#8220;get this&#8221;, you&#8217;ll &#8220;chunk things down&#8221; and come from the mindset of, &#8220;by the inch it&#8217;s a cinch.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>As result&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Those &#8220;little things&#8221; you do that seem like they&#8217;re taking forever&#8212;according to others that are looking from the outside in&#8212;are actually speeding up the process and before you know it you&#8217;re getting done 5 years worth of stuff within a few months.<\/p>\n<p>And while this is going on&#8230;you have that one person who has believed in you all along.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Believer deceiver<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This is uniquely strange. Earlier I mentioned about those who didn&#8217;t believe in that kid you knew while growing up&#8230;whether it was the other kids&#8230;teachers&#8230;the gym coach&#8230;and even family members at home.<\/p>\n<p>What&#8217;s strange here is&#8230;the one person who believed in that kid&#8230;when no one else did&#8230;is quite often any of these people&#8230;sometimes even the same person.<\/p>\n<p>Along with this&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s always one person who does believe in you&#8230;even when it seems like no one else is.<\/p>\n<p>That person is you.<\/p>\n<p>At some point it will seem like no one believes in you. At times that person may even be you.<\/p>\n<p>However&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Like I said earlier&#8230;when you see that no matter what you do in life you&#8217;ll get people supporting and challenging you&#8230;people believing and disbelieving in you&#8230;you&#8217;ll &#8220;stick with it&#8221; and keep moving forward.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t matter if no one&#8230;or very few people believe in you because as long as you do that&#8217;s all you need.<\/p>\n<p>In fact&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>This reminds me of one of my favorite quotes:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I&#8217;d rather have the entire world against me instead of my own soul.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Remember&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s what&#8217;s inside of you&#8230;your soul&#8230;that dictates how your life turns out. It&#8217;s also your soul that believes in you when it seems like no one else does.<\/p>\n<p>Even though at times it may seem like the world is against you&#8230;just know that you always have you on your side&#8230;your true self.<\/p>\n<p>Along with your true self is the uniqueness of who you are.<\/p>\n<p>And it&#8217;s your uniqueness that allows you to stand out and be the special person you are.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>The next time you have someone who doesn&#8217;t believe in you&#8230;quietly thank them&#8230;and then thank yourself for who you are and all that you do.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you remember this happening in school while growing up? It may have been in the classroom&#8230;the school yard&#8230;on the school bus&#8230;while walking home. In fact&#8230; It was also likely to occur at home. 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