{"id":773,"date":"2018-07-08T19:37:54","date_gmt":"2018-07-08T19:37:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/?p=773"},"modified":"2018-07-08T19:37:54","modified_gmt":"2018-07-08T19:37:54","slug":"turning-point-life-2-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2018\/07\/turning-point-life-2-2.html","title":{"rendered":"What Has Been The Turning Point In Your Life?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>How can something that seems like it&#8217;s hidden from you be the same thing that actually is quite visible&#8230;even at the same time? <\/p>\n<p> What could possibly be something that feels like it&#8217;s buried 1000\u00a0 feet in the ground&#8230;also be the same thing that appears to be a foot away from you? <\/p>\n<p> Strange as it seems&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> It&#8217;s also like wearing a black blindfold that you can see straight through. <\/p>\n<p> And it has to do with your life. <\/p>\n<p> More\u00a0 specifically&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> Those moments in your life that create your destiny&#8230;the path you&#8217;re designed to go down. <\/p>\n<p> And this can either be the way you want or the complete\u00a0 opposite of what you want. <\/p>\n<p> Yet&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> No matter how you look at it, it still comes down to the moments that in some way have you at a &#8220;fork in the road&#8221;&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> Which leads to your life turning around. <\/p>\n<p> And whether you&#8217;re aware of it or not&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> It&#8217;s happened&#8230;may be happening right now&#8230;and is about to happen to you. <br \/> What am I talking about? <\/p>\n<p> The turning point in your life.And with it the question&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> What has been the turning point in your life? <\/p>\n<p> <strong>1. Say it is so<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s interesting because there are times during your life when you&#8217;ll say &#8220;I don&#8217;t know&#8221; to something that you &#8220;do know&#8221; the answer to. <\/p>\n<p> Case in point&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> The turning point in your life. <\/p>\n<p> When you think about what the turning point has been in your life, if you find yourself saying &#8220;I don&#8217;t know&#8221; then that is a clear sign you do know. <\/p>\n<p> How so? <\/p>\n<p> Because the only way you could say &#8220;I don&#8217;t know&#8221; is if you&#8217;re comparing it in some way to what you &#8220;do know.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p> And this is true\u00a0 with anything you say &#8220;I don&#8217;t know&#8221; to. <\/p>\n<p> As it relates to what the turning point in your life has been&#8230;what is it? <\/p>\n<p> When you take the time to look&#8230;especially beyond the &#8220;obvious&#8221; you&#8217;ll see it&#8230;and rather clearly. <\/p>\n<p> It may not be in the exact way you originally thought it would have showed up in&#8230;but you&#8217;ll know because you&#8217;ll get that &#8220;I got it&#8221; feeling. <\/p>\n<p> And what&#8217;s also interesting with this is that it could have been something that happened a day&#8230;a week&#8230;a month&#8230;or possibly even years ago. <\/p>\n<p> This is what happened with me. <\/p>\n<p> I&#8217;ve mentioned this story in the past. <\/p>\n<p> I went out for the baseball team my second year in high school. <\/p>\n<p> In order\u00a0 to make the team you had to make two cuts. <\/p>\n<p> I made the first cut. <\/p>\n<p> When it came time for the final cuts the coach read off the names of the kids who didn&#8217;t make the team. <\/p>\n<p> I thought I made the team because he didn&#8217;t read my name (he initially stopped)&#8230;and then he read my name off last. <\/p>\n<p> And right after he did, he said, &#8220;you have more\u00a0 guts\u00a0 than anyone I&#8217;ve ever seen. <\/p>\n<p> Come out for the team next year and you&#8217;ll make it.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p> Now while I didn&#8217;t make the team&#8230;and never played baseball again after that&#8230;this moment became a turning point in my life. <\/p>\n<p> Why? <\/p>\n<p> Because it, in a sense, gave me the self confidence to take on any situation, without giving up, and it was the first time I was able to see both sides of life happening at the same exact time. <\/p>\n<p> The reason&#8230;because here was a coach that rejected me (by cutting me from making the team) while at the same time accepted me (by making that comment). <\/p>\n<p> And this in turn gave me the insight to see other situations in my life that had the same &#8220;hidden blessings.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p> So therefore&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> This became the major turning point in my life. <\/p>\n<p> And the same is true for you. <\/p>\n<p> It&#8217;s just a matter of what that is for you&#8230;and it&#8217;s there. <\/p>\n<p> And since you and your life are that important, it&#8217;s worth taking the time to look through your life&#8230;even beyond the obvious&#8230;and look for the turning point in your life. <\/p>\n<p> Now when you find it and move forward with your life something else happens as a result of you finding that turning point. <\/p>\n<p> <strong>2. The snowball syndrome<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>After you find the turning point in your\u00a0 life&#8230;then what? <\/p>\n<p> To start, you can look at it as &#8220;breaking the ice&#8221; which leads to what I&#8217;m calling the snowball syndrome. <\/p>\n<p> What this means is that situations you come across moving forward in your\u00a0 life&#8230;that ordinarily would have left you feeling uncertain of what to do &#8230;uncertain of taking the &#8220;healthy risks&#8221;&#8230;and uncertain of what your\u00a0 future holds&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> Now all of a sudden are fueled by whatever the turning point was in your life. <\/p>\n<p> In my case, having that coach say what he did&#8230;even though it had to do with going out for the baseball team&#8230;it &#8220;broke the ice&#8221; for me in a lifetime of ways so to speak. <\/p>\n<p> It gave me the courage to be more\u00a0 outgoing in different situations&#8230;ranging from social situations to doing what I love\u00a0 today&#8230;and without having the fear and uncertainty that was there previously. <\/p>\n<p> And this created a snowball effect because I knew that even if things didn&#8217;t go my way, that I had the courage to realize something &#8220;good&#8221; would come out of a situation that on the surface didn&#8217;t seem so good. <\/p>\n<p> Let&#8217;s now take a look\u00a0 at you. <\/p>\n<p> After you find the turning moment in your life, what happened to you moving forward that you can now see is no longer a &#8220;block&#8221; for you? <\/p>\n<p> What is it that you&#8217;ve &#8220;broken the ice&#8221; on that was a result of the turning point in your life? <\/p>\n<p> Stay in the habit of doing this because this is one of the ways you build momentum in your life. <\/p>\n<p> And then it&#8217;s a matter of you figuring out how there is carryover from one area of life to another. <\/p>\n<p> Now I can&#8217;t give you the exact answer to that. <\/p>\n<p> However&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> I can make you aware to be mindful enough so you&#8217;ll recognize the clues you&#8217;re given along the way where you can make that connection. <\/p>\n<p> Also&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> While you&#8217;re building this momentum you&#8217;ll be creating what I&#8217;ll call &#8220;journey equity&#8221; into your life. <\/p>\n<p> And this is what leads to you living a more\u00a0 fulfilled and meaningful life. <\/p>\n<p> <strong>3. Your epic journey<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Realizing what the turning point of your life is and the momentum you get from it obviously is part of your life&#8217;s journey&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> And not just the typical life journey. <\/p>\n<p> But rather&#8230;your epic journey. <\/p>\n<p> Why epic? <\/p>\n<p> Because&#8230;for starters your life&#8217;s journey never ends. <\/p>\n<p> Even after you pass on, your life&#8217;s journey can live on in the form of your legacy&#8230;which can be carried out by your family, a business if you own one, or in some other manner where you&#8217;re remembered for who you are and all that you&#8217;ve done. <\/p>\n<p> And this is all initially created by discovering what the turning point in your life is. <\/p>\n<p> As a result&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> You&#8217;re able to change history moving forward on your life&#8217;s journey. <\/p>\n<p> Remember&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> Everything you say&#8230;your actions&#8230;how you react to someone else and situations are all creating new experiences. <\/p>\n<p> And these experiences are changing history along the way. <\/p>\n<p> This is one of the reasons why you do matter so much&#8230;because you&#8217;re always making a difference in the world in some way. <\/p>\n<p> This is especially magnified once you realize what the turning point in your life is&#8230;and how it propels you on to achieving bigger and greater things in your life. <\/p>\n<p> You can look at it as a crossroads moment in your life that spurs on other little crossroad moments afterwards. <\/p>\n<p> And whether it&#8217;s a result of a baseball coach making a life changing comment like in my case&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> Or it&#8217;s something as it relates to your situation&#8230;it doesn&#8217;t matter. <\/p>\n<p> What matters is that it means something to you and in a way that makes a difference in your life&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> And in a way that brings out the magnificence and brilliance of who you are. <\/p>\n<p> Remember&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> You&#8217;re here for a reason&#8230;and only you know that reason. <\/p>\n<p> And it doesn&#8217;t matter what anyone else says or believes&#8230;it&#8217;s what you believe about who you are. <\/p>\n<p> It comes down to this&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> Stay true to yourself&#8230;know that you contribute a tremendous amount of value to the world&#8230;and that you do so in your own unique way which serves humanity. <\/p>\n<p> And above all&#8230; <\/p>\n<p> Thank yourself and those along the way that have contributed to you being the special person you are.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How can something that seems like it&#8217;s hidden from you be the same thing that actually is quite visible&#8230;even at the same time? 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