{"id":620,"date":"2017-05-28T12:56:34","date_gmt":"2017-05-28T12:56:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/?p=620"},"modified":"2017-05-28T12:56:41","modified_gmt":"2017-05-28T12:56:41","slug":"turning-point-life-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2017\/05\/turning-point-life-2.html","title":{"rendered":"What Has Been The Turning Point In Your Life?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>How can something that seems like it&#8217;s hidden from you be the same thing that actually is quite visible&#8230;even at the same time?<\/p>\n<p>What could possibly be something that feels like it&#8217;s buried 1000 feet in the ground&#8230;also be the same thing that appears to be a foot away from you?<\/p>\n<p>Strange as it seems&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s also like wearing a black blindfold that you can see straight through.<\/p>\n<p>And it has to do with your life.<\/p>\n<p>More specifically&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Those moments in your life that create your destiny&#8230;the path you&#8217;re designed to go down.<\/p>\n<p>And this can either be the way you want or the complete opposite of what you want.<\/p>\n<p>Yet&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>No matter how you look at it, it still comes down to the moments that in some way have you at a &#8220;fork in the road&#8221;&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Which leads to your life turning around.<\/p>\n<p>And whether you&#8217;re aware of it or not&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s happened&#8230;may be happening right now&#8230;and is about to happen to you.<\/p>\n<p>What am I talking about?<\/p>\n<p>The turning point in your life.And with it the question&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>What has been the turning point in your life?<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Say it is so<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s interesting because there are times during your life when you&#8217;ll say &#8220;I don&#8217;t know&#8221; to something that you &#8220;do know&#8221; the answer to.<\/p>\n<p>Case in point&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>The turning point in your life.<\/p>\n<p>When you think about what the turning point has been in your life, if you find yourself saying &#8220;I don&#8217;t know&#8221; then that is a clear sign you do know.<\/p>\n<p>How so?<\/p>\n<p>Because the only way you could say &#8220;I don&#8217;t know&#8221; is if you&#8217;re comparing it in some way to what you &#8220;do know.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And this is true with anything you say &#8220;I don&#8217;t know&#8221; to.<\/p>\n<p>As it relates to what the turning point in your life has been&#8230;what is it?<\/p>\n<p>When you take the time to look&#8230;especially beyond the &#8220;obvious&#8221; you&#8217;ll see it&#8230;and rather clearly.<\/p>\n<p>It may not be in the exact way you originally thought it would have showed up in&#8230;but you&#8217;ll know because you&#8217;ll get that &#8220;I got it&#8221; feeling.<\/p>\n<p>And what&#8217;s also interesting with this is that it could have been something that happened a day&#8230;a week&#8230;a month&#8230;or possibly even years ago.<\/p>\n<p>This is what happened with me.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve mentioned this story in the past.<\/p>\n<p>I went out for the baseball team my second year in high school.<\/p>\n<p>In order to make the team you had to make two cuts.<\/p>\n<p>I made the first cut.<\/p>\n<p>When it came time for the final cuts the coach read off the names of the kids who didn&#8217;t make the team.<\/p>\n<p>I thought I made the team because he didn&#8217;t read my name (he initially stopped)&#8230;and then he read my name off last.<\/p>\n<p>And right after he did, he said, &#8220;you have more guts than anyone I&#8217;ve ever seen. Come out for the team next year and you&#8217;ll make it.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Now while I didn&#8217;t make the team&#8230;and never played baseball again after that&#8230;this moment became a turning point in my life.<\/p>\n<p>Why?<\/p>\n<p>Because it, in a sense, gave me the self confidence to take on any situation, without giving up, and it was the first time I was able to see both sides of life happening at the same exact time.<\/p>\n<p>The reason&#8230;because here was a coach that rejected me (by cutting me from making the team) while at the same time accepted me (by making that comment).<\/p>\n<p>And this in turn gave me the insight to see other situations in my life that had the same &#8220;hidden blessings.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>So therefore&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>This became the major turning point in my life.<\/p>\n<p>And the same is true for you.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s just a matter of what that is for you&#8230;and it&#8217;s there.<\/p>\n<p>And since you and your life are that important, it&#8217;s worth taking the time to look through your life&#8230;even beyond the obvious&#8230;and look for the turning point in your life.<\/p>\n<p>Now when you find it and move forward with your life something else happens as a result of you finding that turning point.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. The snowball syndrome<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>After you find the turning point in your life&#8230;then what?<\/p>\n<p>To start, you can look at it as &#8220;breaking the ice&#8221; which leads to what I&#8217;m calling the snowball syndrome.<\/p>\n<p>What this means is that situations you come across moving forward in your life&#8230;that ordinarily would have left you feeling uncertain of what to do &#8230;uncertain of taking the &#8220;healthy risks&#8221;&#8230;and uncertain of what your future holds&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Now all of a sudden are fueled by whatever the turning point was in your life.<\/p>\n<p>In my case, having that coach say what he did&#8230;even though it had to do with going out for the baseball team&#8230;it &#8220;broke the ice&#8221; for me in a lifetime of ways so to speak.<\/p>\n<p>It gave me the courage to be more outgoing in different situations&#8230;ranging from social situations to doing what I love today&#8230;and without having the fear and uncertainty that was there previously.<\/p>\n<p>And this created a snowball effect because I knew that even if things didn&#8217;t go my way, that I had the courage to realize something &#8220;good&#8221; would come out of a situation that on the surface didn&#8217;t seem so good.<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s now take a look at you.<\/p>\n<p>After you find the turning moment in your life, what happened to you moving forward that you can now see is no longer a &#8220;block&#8221; for you?<\/p>\n<p>What is it that you&#8217;ve &#8220;broken the ice&#8221; on that was a result of the turning point in your life?<\/p>\n<p>Stay in the habit of doing this because this is one of the ways you build momentum in your life.<\/p>\n<p>And then it&#8217;s a matter of you figuring out how there is carryover from one area of life to another.<\/p>\n<p>Now I can&#8217;t give you the exact answer to that.<\/p>\n<p>However&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I can make you aware to be mindful enough so you&#8217;ll recognize the clues you&#8217;re given along the way where you can make that connection.<\/p>\n<p>Also&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>While you&#8217;re building this momentum you&#8217;ll be creating what I&#8217;ll call &#8220;journey equity&#8221; into your life.<\/p>\n<p>And this is what leads to you living a more fulfilled and meaningful life.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Your epic journey<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Realizing what the turning point of your life is and the momentum you get from it obviously is part of your life&#8217;s journey&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And not just the typical life journey.<\/p>\n<p>But rather&#8230;your epic journey.<\/p>\n<p>Why epic?<\/p>\n<p>Because&#8230;for starters your life&#8217;s journey never ends.<\/p>\n<p>Even after you pass on, your life&#8217;s journey can live on in the form of your legacy&#8230;which can be carried out by your family, a business if you own one, or in some other manner where you&#8217;re remembered for who you are and all that you&#8217;ve done.<\/p>\n<p>And this is all initially created by discovering what the turning point in your life is.<\/p>\n<p>As a result&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re able to change history moving forward on your life&#8217;s journey.<\/p>\n<p>Remember&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Everything you say&#8230;your actions&#8230;how you react to someone else and situations are all creating new experiences.<\/p>\n<p>And these experiences are changing history along the way.<\/p>\n<p>This is one of the reasons why you do matter so much&#8230;because you&#8217;re always making a difference in the world in some way.<\/p>\n<p>This is especially magnified once you realize what the turning point in your life is&#8230;and how it propels you on to achieving bigger and greater things in your life.<\/p>\n<p>You can look at it as a crossroads moment in your life that spurs on other little crossroad moments afterwards.<\/p>\n<p>And whether it&#8217;s a result of a baseball coach making a life changing comment like in my case&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Or it&#8217;s something as it relates to your situation&#8230;it doesn&#8217;t matter.<\/p>\n<p>What matters is that it means something to you and in a way that makes a difference in your life&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And in a way that brings out the magnificence and brilliance of who you are.<\/p>\n<p>Remember&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re here for a reason&#8230;and only you know that reason.<\/p>\n<p>And it doesn&#8217;t matter what anyone else says or believes&#8230;it&#8217;s what you believe about who you are.<\/p>\n<p>It comes down to this&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Stay true to yourself&#8230;know that you contribute a tremendous amount of value to the world&#8230;and that you do so in your own unique way which serves humanity.<\/p>\n<p>And above all&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Thank yourself and those along the way that have contributed to you being the special person you are.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How can something that seems like it&#8217;s hidden from you be the same thing that actually is quite visible&#8230;even at the same time? 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