{"id":60,"date":"2013-11-04T00:01:32","date_gmt":"2013-11-04T00:01:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/becausethisisyourlife\/?p=60"},"modified":"2013-11-04T00:01:48","modified_gmt":"2013-11-04T00:01:48","slug":"do-you-miss-the-good-old-days","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/becausethisisyourlife\/2013\/11\/do-you-miss-the-good-old-days.html","title":{"rendered":"Do You Miss The &#8220;Good Old Days?&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><!--[if gte mso 9]&gt;--><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">To many people it&#8217;s one of their biggest nightmares.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">And there&#8217;s a good possibility it can be one of yours as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">At first you may not think anything of it. You&#8217;ll just keep going about your business day in and day out, month in and month out, year in and year out.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">And little by little it creeps up on you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">But at the same time something very unusual and satisfying is taking place.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">The seemingly twisting and turning of events over time adds even more to this already ongoing phenomena.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">And as strange as it also seems we have a tendency to pass this on to our loved ones&#8230; sometimes without even realizing it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">How do you know it&#8217;s happening to you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Well, you&#8217;ll know when you start thinking and speaking about it more often as time goes on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">I&#8217;m really talking about two things here&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">One, how you see life currently going on around you&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">And two, how you used to see life going on around you in the past.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">The first is the apparent nightmare. The second is the apparent better way of life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">What I&#8217;m referring to is the &#8220;good old days&#8221; mindset. I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;ve had it at some point in time. Most people have. I have as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Then something came along (that was there all along) which not only changed the way I saw things, but also how life is designed to work.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">And this led to living a more fulfilled life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Before realizing what this is, it&#8217;s important to ask yourself&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Do you miss the &#8220;good old days?&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-size: 9.0pt;font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\"><strong>1. The age of innocence-<\/strong> When you look back to your days growing up as a youth in your hometown, you can&#8217;t help but see it as a time of innocence. Besides you&#8230; your parents, their parents, your friends, and your friends parents have done this as well. The only difference is typically the generation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">For you it may have been the 1970&#8217;s or 80&#8217;s. For your parents perhaps it was the 1940&#8217;s, and for their parents even before that. In any case it was still a time of &#8220;innocence.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">And this is fair to say because it is during these times that we perceived life as it used to be&#8230;in many cases the &#8220;good old days&#8221; because it had that &#8220;innocence&#8221; element attached to it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">I remember growing up in New Jersey and would hear about this frequently. Back in the late 70&#8217;s early 80&#8217;s I would hear about how &#8220;innocent&#8221; it was back in my parents time (the 40&#8217;s and 50&#8217;s). I heard the same thing from my grandparents back in their time as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">As time went on I began to notice that this age of innocence is always there for every person. Yes, there may be a &#8220;sensitivity&#8221; to the era you grew up in. However, as long as you&#8217;re still alive, you&#8217;re still growing. So therefore, right now it&#8217;s still an age of innocence for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">In other words, it&#8217;s still the &#8220;good old days&#8221; but now you also have the &#8220;good new days.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\"><strong>2. Good times Bad times-<\/strong> You hear people frequently say that those were the &#8220;good old days&#8221; or that they wish it was like the &#8220;good old days&#8221; or that it was better back then and so on. Here&#8217;s something very interesting&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">If you find yourself now saying, &#8220;I miss the good old days&#8221;, take a look back at that time and ask yourself if you saw it back then as being &#8220;the good old days.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">For example, if you saw 30 years ago as being your &#8220;good old days&#8221;, take a look previous to that. Were those the &#8220;good old days&#8221; too?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Now of course this will vary depending on your age.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Take my parents for example. They&#8217;re both in their 70&#8217;s. I remember back in the 80&#8217;s they would say how much it was better back in their time&#8230;the 40&#8217;s and 50&#8217;s, and that the then current time (the 80&#8217;s) weren&#8217;t the same, they were worse.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Now in 2013, I hear them say how much better it was in the 80&#8217;s and how today just isn&#8217;t the same&#8230;or how better it was back in the 80&#8217;s than it is today.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Of course I&#8217;m just giving one example of this but here&#8217;s the point&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">No matter what era of time you&#8217;re talking about there is the so called &#8220;good&#8221; and the so called &#8220;bad&#8221;, the positives and the negatives of that time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Also keep in mind that today&#8212;with the advances in technology&#8212;people and events are more under the microscope than ever. So, what we weren&#8217;t aware of &#8220;back in the day&#8221; was there&#8230;we just weren&#8217;t as aware of it as we are today.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Some people will say that it was more &#8220;simple&#8221; back then and that today is more complicated. When you really look close it&#8217;s no different, just a little more advanced&#8230;and much of that has to do with the tremendous advances in technology.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">So why is all of this important? How does it apply to you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Because if you&#8217;re still wishing it was like it was back then, back in the &#8220;good old days&#8221;, you&#8217;ll miss out on the opportunities in front of you today&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">And on top of that more likely to have more of those &#8220;nightmares&#8221; that &#8220;today&#8221; is horrible, bad, and more negative.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Therefore, as you continue to live your amazing life, just know that you&#8217;ll have just as many supports and challenges, up moments and down moments, along with new things coming in with the &#8220;old&#8221; going out, as you do at any point in time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">As I like to say&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">&#8220;The more things change the more they stay the same.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\"><strong>3. Living in the golden years-<\/strong> So where do you go from here? Is it a good idea to look back at those &#8220;good old days&#8221; or just move on to the &#8220;good new days?&#8221; And how can you use each to your advantage?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">This now brings us back to what I mentioned in the beginning&#8230;that at the same time something very unusual and satisfying is taking place.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">And here&#8217;s what it is&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Everything that has taken place in your life, right up to the current moment, is helping you in every area of your life moving forward.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">What took place in those &#8220;good old days&#8221; are just as &#8220;good&#8221; and beneficial to you now as it was back then. Rather than hoping it was like it used to be, it&#8217;s much wiser to appreciate things as they were back then&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">And then see how &#8220;good&#8221; and beneficial things are today. These are the &#8220;good new days&#8221; that are also the &#8220;good old days&#8221;&#8230;just like it was back when you were growing up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Along with this, look at today as also living in the Golden Years.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">You can look at the Golden Years as being a combination of your &#8220;good old days&#8221; and what you experience today.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">This helps you create those special moments that you&#8217;ll look back on years from now and say how amazing it was.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Yes, you&#8217;ll have the &#8220;ups&#8221; and &#8220;downs&#8221;&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">But you&#8217;ll also have the fulfillment that comes along with it&#8230;the fulfillment that you&#8217;re living an inspired life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">And by living this fulfilling and inspiring life you&#8217;ll see just how special of a person you are&#8230;and others will see it too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">Remember&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">This is your time to shine and show the world how much you do matter by just being who you are.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span style=\"font-size: 9.0pt;font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif';color: black\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>To many people it&#8217;s one of their biggest nightmares. 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