It\u2019s something that can leave you feeling lost in a bad dream\u2026even though you\u2019re not dreaming.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s something that can leave your body aching for days, weeks, or months\u2026even though it\u2019s one of the biggest blessings you\u2019ll ever get in your life.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s something that is likely to leave you second guessing yourself and the decisions you\u2019ve made\u2026even though those decisions ultimately lead to another blessing in your life.<\/p>\n
And it\u2019s also something that has you thinking\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201dHow could this be happening to me\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n
“What did I ever do to deserve this”…<\/p>\n
“Why am I in this situation and what can I do to change it?”<\/p>\n
“I can’t believe this is true.”<\/p>\n
Now even though it may seem this way at first there’s another side to it.<\/p>\n
Because at the same time\u2026<\/p>\n
It\u2019s one of the best feelings you\u2019ll ever experience\u2026<\/p>\n
Where you\u2019ll feel like it\u2019s a dream come true\u2026<\/p>\n
Where you\u2019ll feel that warm “fuzzy” feeling inside that makes your heart sing…<\/p>\n
Where you\u2019ll have tears of gratitude.<\/p>\n
And this is all because of one word\u2026Trust.<\/p>\n
More specifically\u2026<\/p>\n
The trust you have for another person.<\/p>\n
And not just some casual, \u201cyeah I trust this person\u201d type of feeling.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m talking about a \u201cdeep trust\u201d you would have for someone who ends up being a close friend, relationship partner, and even a family member.<\/p>\n
Whatever the case is for you it still comes down to the same question\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cHow do you know who you can trust\u201d<\/p>\n
1. Here today gone today-<\/strong> There are very few things in life—to the point where all the money in the world wouldn\u2019t be enough— that you can\u2019t put a price tag on. So few in fact that you can count them on one hand.<\/p>\n One of these is trust.<\/p>\n And more specifically\u2026<\/p>\n Trusting someone to the point where you could literally put your life in their hands. Or said another way\u2026the type of trust you\u2019ve always dreamed of having with another person where they are true to you and their word day in and day out.<\/p>\n And most importantly it\u2019s the \u201cday in and day out\u201d part that comes to mind.<\/p>\n In fact this brings up a quote:<\/p>\n “One lie in a matter of seconds can undo 25 years of telling the truth and with it the trust you have for someone. Be upfront and truthful because it’s much wiser to maintain your integrity.”<\/p>\n This is a quote that\u2019s near and dear to my heart and one that I\u2019m always thinking of whenever I deal with people\u2026especially those closest to me.<\/p>\n With this also comes something that at first I never understood but now I do\u2026why would someone ever compromise the trust someone put in them by lying and deceiving them?<\/p>\n Obviously there are as many different reasons for this as there are people. And of course you, I, and just about anyone you know has been on the receiving end of having someone that violated your trust.<\/p>\n There\u2019s no avoiding this\u2026at least at first.<\/p>\n So the question here (actually there\u2019s two questions) is:<\/p>\n One\u2026do you give someone who violated your trust a second chance?<\/p>\n And two\u2026how can you tell early on after meeting someone if they\u2019ll be someone who you can trust in the way you always dreamed of?<\/p>\n To answer the first question (and this goes back to the quote you read earlier) the bottom line is\u2026when someone violates your trust the first time there\u2019s a very high probability that they\u2019ll do so again.<\/p>\n Of course there\u2019s always exceptions but truthfully they\u2019re far and few between.<\/p>\n This also goes back to something else you read earlier\u2026about the fact you can\u2019t put a price tag on how much having someone\u2019s trust is worth. It\u2019s one of those things that can be here today and gone today\u2026and literally in a matter of seconds.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re like me then you know it\u2019s just not worth compromising. Instead, just be upfront with people and tell them the truth instead of going behind their back.<\/p>\n I know it sounds simple and really it is.<\/p>\n But the fact is that for most people it isn\u2019t simple and even though they may know this\u2026they\u2019ll still violate your trust anyway.<\/p>\n When this happens, do you give them another chance? When it happened to you in your life did you give them a second chance?<\/p>\n I\u2019m sure at some point in your life (and the same with me) you did give that second\u2026or even third and fourth chance. And in every case I\u2019m sure it turned out the same way.<\/p>\n And even though it most likely left you second guessing yourself and the decisions you made, even to the point where it left your body aching for days, weeks, or months\u2026it still leads to two of the biggest blessings you\u2019ll ever get in your life.<\/p>\n Before getting to that let\u2019s take a look at the second question I mentioned earlier\u2026about whether you can tell early on after meeting someone if they\u2019ll be someone who you\u2019ll be able to trust in the way you always dreamed of?<\/p>\n 2. Sacred trust-<\/strong> There\u2019s a certain magic—a mystical type of feeling—that you experience when you realize you\u2019ve met someone that you know you can trust. It\u2019s not one you\u2019ll be able to plan out in advance. It\u2019s also one that you most likely won\u2019t be able to put into words at first. Instead it\u2019s a feeling you\u2019ll have\u2026especially the first time you feel it.<\/p>\n This is what I call having a Sacred Trust with someone\u2026<\/p>\n And it can only occur at a deep level. It\u2019s a heart to heart connection you have with someone that is driven by a \u201cdeep feeling\u201d where there is an inner knowing of \u201cI can truly trust this person.\u201d<\/p>\n Now the question is\u2026<\/p>\n \u201cHow can you tell early on after meeting someone if they\u2019ll be the person that you can have (and maintain) this Sacred Trust with over time\u2026and in the way you always dreamed of having?\u201d<\/p>\n To be truthful about it, there is no definite time frame in which you\u2019ll know. In other words, you may meet someone and you\u2019ll know within a month. With someone else you may have that feeling about them in six months, a year, or possibly longer It\u2019s going to be different for you than it is for someone else.<\/p>\n Whatever the time it takes it\u2019s still something that is earned\u2026it\u2019s still something that is a day in and day out habit over the lifetime of the relationship.<\/p>\n However\u2026<\/p>\n The deeper your connection is with someone\u2026the more of that heart to heart connection you have with them\u2026and the more you truly are \u201cfeeling it\u201d\u2026the sooner you develop that Sacred Trust.<\/p>\n This also brings up the question\u2026<\/p>\n How do you know if you truly have that deep heart to heart connection with someone to the point where you can have that Sacred Trust with them\u2026instead of that \u201cYeah I felt that at first with someone before but then they betrayed me anyway\u201d feeling. I\u2019ll discuss this in a minute.<\/p>\n But just know that even when you do have this deep heart to heart connection with them (like you read earlier) there\u2019s still the day in and day out habit of proving that trust\u2026and continually earning it.<\/p>\n In fact\u2026<\/p>\n This brings up something I\u2019ve always felt for as long as I can remember\u2026which is pretty much my entire life.<\/p>\n And it\u2019s the thought of trusting someone, having someone trust you, why people violate someone\u2019s trust to being with, along with what you read about earlier\u2026Sacred Trust.<\/p>\n Over the course of my life I\u2019ve spoken with and been around many people—to include those I was in relationships with—who had relationships that ended because they couldn\u2019t trust the person based on events that took place.<\/p>\n And whenever they spoke about the details of what happened I would have visions of what they experienced\u2026of what they went through when they put their trust in someone and that trust was violated.<\/p>\n I would see visions of someone who \u201cgave it their all\u201d to the person they felt they could trust. I would see visions of how they were true to this person.<\/p>\n There were visions of how they did all the \u201clittle big things\u201d for this person. I had other visions of how they took the time to care enough about this other person and to be there for them.<\/p>\n After hearing these stories I could just \u201cfeel\u201d how they felt when the person they were in a relationship with violated their trust. And the people I care about most\u2026after hearing their stories I had visions of the sadness in their face, the tears in their eyes, and the immediate pain in their heart.<\/p>\n And hearing enough of these stories both early on and over time while continuing to have thoughts of what these people went through\u2026somehow it has always driven me to make that day in and day out habit of proving that trust to those who put their trust in me.<\/p>\n And let\u2019s face it\u2026<\/p>\n I know for some people it may be difficult. I understand where people are coming from and what they\u2019ve experienced in their lives. I realize that some people reach the point where they just lose all faith and trust in someone.<\/p>\n But I also know that all I can do is to just stay true to my word and live that promise I\u2019ve made to both myself and the person I\u2019m with.<\/p>\n What\u2019s also fascinating here is that this also got me to understand why far too many people violate the trust someone put in them. And simple as it sounds it\u2019s because they flat out don\u2019t care.<\/p>\n Because when someone truly cares about someone else (along with having that deep heart to heart and soul connection) they\u2019ll do whatever it takes on a day by day basis to be trustworthy. They\u2019ll be mindful enough to put in the effort because the person they\u2019re with is that important to them.<\/p>\n This is when there\u2019s Sacred Trust.<\/p>\n And regardless of whatever has happened in your life\u2026just know that there is ALWAYS somewhere out there who is the person you\u2019ll be able to have this Sacred Trust with.<\/p>\n It\u2019s just a matter of having them come in to your life. It\u2019s having the right person\u2026at the right time\u2026with the right connection\u2026along with it being a \u201cdeep feeling\u201d.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s take a look at that now along with those two blessings I mentioned earlier.<\/p>\n 3. The heart and soul of trust-<\/strong> Back in June 2014 I was chatting with a guy in my gym who I would see on a somewhat regular basis. On this particular day he was telling me about his girlfriend and how he was texting her every four minutes.<\/p>\n He went on to say that the reason for doing this was because he wanted to know what she was always up to. I was able to tell by the way he was speaking that it had some awkwardness to it.<\/p>\n Being that I knew him I said, \u201cIf you\u2019re having to text her every four minutes that tells you she isn\u2019t the one.\u201d<\/p>\n He paused for a moment and said, \u201cI\u2019ll think about what you said\u2026and you know\u2026we\u2019ve kind of not been getting along lately and I\u2019m not sure about where the relationship is going.\u201d<\/p>\n The next time I saw him \u2026four days later\u2026he said the relationship was over.<\/p>\n I\u2019m bringing this up because it has everything to do with trusting someone\u2026especially in a relationship.<\/p>\n And it goes back to what it takes in having that Sacred Trust with someone\u2026a heart to heart and soul connection with someone.<\/p>\n Because when you do you\u2019ll be so connected that you\u2019ll \u201cfeel\u201d them to the point where you\u2019ll just know you can trust them\u2026and you won\u2019t be \u201clooking over your shoulder\u201d wondering where they are, what they\u2019re doing, or who they may be with.<\/p>\n Along with this\u2026<\/p>\n You\u2019ll feel at ease\u2026you\u2019ll feel a sense of peace.<\/p>\n This is the heart and soul of trust.<\/p>\n Now of course this isn\u2019t something that will happen after a day or two of meeting someone. As you read earlier it\u2019s something that you can \u201cfeel\u201d early on with someone but is still something that is continually earned on a day in and day out basis.<\/p>\n To answer the question of, \u201cHow do you know that you have this heart to heart and soul connection with someone\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n There is no definite answer because it\u2019s a \u201cdeep connection type of feeling\u201d you\u2019ll have with them. It\u2019s not something you can \u201cthink\u201d or try to intellectualize.<\/p>\n And especially, it\u2019s not an infatuation type of feeling where you find yourself \u201chooked\u201d on a certain trait(s) and things you like about them. It\u2019s also not the type of feeling where you find yourself thinking about them 24\/7 even to the point where you can\u2019t sleep at night.<\/p>\n Rather\u2026<\/p>\n You\u2019ll see (and feel) all of who you are in them while at the same time realize your own uniqueness. In a sense you\u2019ll see the version of you in them\u2026your mannerisms, the things you both like and dislike, along with that \u201cfeeling\u201d I mentioned earlier.<\/p>\n It\u2019s the type of feeling where you can \u201cfeel\u201d them\u2026to include feeling them being trustworthy.<\/p>\n Interestingly\u2026<\/p>\n When you know that you\u2019re a trustworthy person to the point where you wouldn\u2019t violate anyone\u2019s trust in you\u2026the person you have this heart to heart and soul connection with\u2026they\u2019ll be that person who won\u2019t violate your trust.<\/p>\n After reading this you may be thinking, \u201cWell I\u2019ve trusted one person after another in the past and each time they let me down. I don\u2019t trust anyone.\u201d<\/p>\n This is a natural feeling to have and something I\u2019ve had thoughts about as well when I sensed a possible relationship with someone I just met.<\/p>\n At first it left me feeling cautious and just not wanting to go through what seemed like \u201cthe crap\u201d of past relationships\u2026so I would take the \u201csafe way\u201d out and not get involved.<\/p>\n But after going through this enough times I came to realize one of the most valuable life lessons there is\u2026<\/p>\n And it has to do with the two blessings I mentioned earlier.<\/p>\n 4. The blessings of trust-<\/strong> If you\u2019ve ever had a relationship end because someone violated your trust and it left your body (and your heart) aching for days, weeks, or months\u2026this is the beginning of where blessing number one is.<\/p>\n What it means is that this person who violated your trust was not \u201cthe one\u201d for you\u2026even if this has occurred with twenty different people over the course of your life.<\/p>\n Yes, it may leave you wanting to not trust anyone. However, the true blessing in it all is the fact that it\u2019s \u201cweeding out\u201d the people who aren\u2019t right for you while at the same time leading to the person who is right for you\u2026the person you\u2019ll meet that you will have that heart to heart and deep soul connection with.<\/p>\n And like you read earlier\u2026no matter what has happened in your life this person is ALWAYS out there\u2026the person you can have that Sacred Trust with.<\/p>\n In fact\u2026<\/p>\n This is one of the biggest things that has helped me to knowing who I can put more of my trust in. Not only that but it has also helped me to easily detect those I\u2019m not able to trust.<\/p>\n This leads to the second blessing\u2026<\/p>\n Being able to make the right decisions without second guessing yourself.<\/p>\n I\u2019m sure you already know and have experienced in some way\u2026it can be easy at first to second guess yourself about someone\u2026especially when it comes to meeting someone new\u2026to revert back to past experiences and just not want to go through it all again.<\/p>\n But once you realize the first blessing I just mentioned it makes your decision making that much easier. Not only won\u2019t you second guess yourself but you\u2019ll have a much stronger \u201cgut feeling\u201d about someone new you do meet.<\/p>\n And as you already know, when you\u2019re truly trusting your gut you\u2019ll always make the right decisions\u2026<\/p>\n The decisions that lead to having some of the best feelings you\u2019ll ever experience\u2026<\/p>\n The decisions that leave you feeling in many ways like it\u2019s a dream come true\u2026<\/p>\n The decisions that put you in situations where you have that warm \u201cfuzzy\u201d feeling inside that makes your heart sing\u2026<\/p>\n Along with the decisions that lead to you having tears of gratitude.<\/p>\n And it all involves finding the people in your life who you can trust.<\/p>\n At first it may seem like these people aren\u2019t in your life\u2026but they are. And it\u2019s likely you\u2019ll meet these people when you least expect it.<\/p>\n However it plays out for you always remember\u2026<\/p>\n No matter what has happened to you\u2026no matter where you\u2019ve been\u2026no matter what anyone has ever done or not done to you\u2026and no matter what you\u2019ve done or not done\u2026you\u2019re worthy of love.<\/p>\n You deserve to be loved for who you are and all you do\u2026<\/p>\n And by the people who sincerely care enough about you to be the ones you\u2019re able to have that lifelong trust with.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It\u2019s something that can leave you feeling lost in a bad dream\u2026even though you\u2019re not dreaming. It\u2019s something that can leave your body aching for days, weeks, or months\u2026even though it\u2019s one of the biggest blessings you\u2019ll ever get in your life. 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